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The Importance of Saying Thank You, and Why You Should Say It Often
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4/17/2014 5:30am
"Thank you" can be an incredibly powerful pair of words, especially if the person you're thanking really needs to hear them, or isn't expecting them. In this short TED talk, Dr. Laura Trice muses over the power of saying thank you, and reminds us why we should say it―and ask to hear it―more often. P
The talk is only about three minutes, but Dr. Trice hits two big points―first, that most of us really do want to hear someone thank us for the things that we do, even if it's something that we're supposed to be doing anyway. Being appreciated is one of those things that really motivates us, both at work and in life, so a little goes a long way if you can offer up a genuine thank you when it's appropriate. Second, she notes that it's equally important in our relationships to make it clear when we want to be appreciated, otherwise we run the risk of never hearing it because the other people in our lives just assume we already know we are, or that they don't need to say it. In other words, if you feel underappreciated, make it clear to the people in your life that you feel that way―anyone who actually cares about you will be more than willing to make sure that's no longer the case. P
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4/17/14 5:48am
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Alan, thank you :-)
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4/17/14 6:01am
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Aw! I actually didn't expect that at all when I wrote this. :) Thank YOU!
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4/17/14 6:16am
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You're welcome. I tweeted this because my parents taught me this, in addition to other manners, 40 years ago. I was at the supermarket one evening and walked in front of someone as they were looking at cereal and said excuse as I passed. She thanked me and commented that no one does that anymore.
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You're welcome. I tweeted this because my parents taught me this, in addition to other manners, 40 years ago. I was at the supermarket one evening and walked in front of someone as they were looking at cereal and said excuse as I passed. She thanked me and commented that no one does that anymore.
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4/17/14 6:54am
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Years ago, in the Boys Scouts, I was taught that when someone hands you an axe, when you have it firmly gripped, you say "Thank You" - convey to the other person you ready for them to release it.
I've since used this idea for whenever someone hands me something ― Saying "Thank You" to mean "You can let go now". This way I never forget to say "Thank you" and I never drop anything.
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So much this. I use this method when passing knives or other dangerous objects too. "Thank you" is the clear indicator that they have it and it's safe to let go. Extending the notion to everything whenever you pass anything to anyone is a good idea.
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Almost as important, in my mind, is to respond to a "Thank you" with "You're welcome." Not "sure" or "of course" or "no problem" ― these responses to "thank you" diminish or negate the expression of gratitude or praise. If I thank someone for doing something for me and they respond, "of course" it's like they're telling me they either really made zero effort on my behalf, or they don't care that I'm expressing honest appreciation to them. If you hold the door open for someone and they say "thank you", respond "you're welcome". It feels great to hear it and great to say it.
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I can't agree with this enough.
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In this deceptively simple 3-minute talk, Dr. Laura Trice muses on the power of the magic words "thank you" ― to deepen a friendship, to repair a bond, to make sure another person knows what they mean to you. Try it.
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Thank you!
You're welcome
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【初級】教科書でも学ぶ2つの言い方
Thank you!
You're welcome!
Thank you very much!
Not at all!
「ありがとうなんてとんでもない」という意味。
You're welcomeよりも形式張った言い方です。
【中級】聞いたことあるかも7つの言い方
Thank you so much!
Don't mention it!
「ありがとうなんて言わなくていいよ」という感じ。
You're welcomeよりも形式張った言い方。
Thanks. You're a lifesaver!
Don't worry about it!
「おかまいなく」という意味。
Thank you!
My pleasure!
「私嬉しいわ」という意味。
丁寧な言い方。
Thank you so much! You're an angel!
No problem!
「問題ないよ」という意味。
カジュアルな言い方。
Thanks!
Anytime!
「いつでもどうぞ」という意味。
カジュアルな言い方。
Thanks, you're sweetheart!
Forget about it!
「気にしないで、忘れちゃって」という意味。
Thanks, I owe you one!
That's OK!
「大丈夫だよ」という意味。
【上級】何個知ってる？8つの言い方
Thank you so much!
Sure, you bet!
bet: （お金を）かける / ～だと確信する
you bet だけで「いいよ」という意味。
Thanks from the bottom of my heart.
Hey. That's what friends are for.
「そのための友達じゃないか」という意味。
Thank youuuuuuuuuuu!
It's the least I could do.
「せめてこのぐらいはさせてよ」という意味。
Thanks!!
Think nothing of it
「おかまいなく」という意味。
Don't mention it.よりやや形式ばった言い方。
Thank you very much!
It's no big deal!
big deal: 大したこと
no big dealで「大したことないよ」という意味。
Thanks! You didn't have to do that!
No sweat!
sweat: 汗
no sweatで「（汗をかかないくらい）お安いご用さ」という意味。
Thanks!
No biggie!
biggie: 大したこと
no big deal と同じく、「大したことないよ」という意味。
カジュアルな言い方。
Thanks for watching!
You owe me one.
owe ～: ～に借りがある
You owe me oneで「一つ私に借りができたね。」という意味だが、通常冗談っぽくこういうことを言う。
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