一昨日
元上場会社の幹部の方とプレーしましたが
この人は長く海外勤務だったそうですが
一番困ったのは食事だそうです。
何年いても体は現地の食事に馴染めずに
日本食ばかり食べていましたが
なんせ海外で食べる日本食は高いそうで
大金が吹っ飛んで行った
そんな話をしていました。
そして今日本に戻って来て
つくづく日本は世界で一番良い国
そう思うそうです。
ただし視野の広い方ですからね
本当は自分にとって日本が良いと言ってる訳で
日本人で無ければ
それぞれ生まれ育った国が一番良いと感じる
これも良く理解しています。
どうしでしょうね?
まぁ結論から言えば
成長過程で環境に合わせて心も体も出来上がりますから
大人になって環境が変わると
それに適応できなくなる。
だから生まれ育った場所で一生を終えれば
快適に過ごせる
って事なんだろうと思います。
ですから日本人でもし
本当に日本が世界で一番良い国
って思ったとしたら
視野が狭い
って事にもなります。
私自身は長期間海外に行くことはありませんが
旅行であっても3日以上日本を離れると
明らかに消化器が怒り出しますよね。
若い頃11日間アメリカに行った事がありますが
もう4日目からはステーキやハンバーガーの臭いを嗅いだだけで
気持ち悪くなりました。
ですからそれ以降は
食パンとかナッツとかアイスクリームみたいな物で命をつなぐ
そんな感じでしたね。
成田に着いて最初に飛び込んだのは
サービスエリアにあるファミレスでした。
やっと米が食えた
その喜びは今でも鮮明に覚えています。
そんな訳で
多分私たちの内臓は
成長過程で食べる物を記憶していて
その記憶に合わない食べ物には拒否反応を示す
そうなってるんだと思います。
私は辛い食べ物が苦手ですが
多分理由は子供の頃食べた事が無かったからです。
ですから
成長過程で食べる食物は
一生体に影響を与える
そうやって考えて
お父さんお母さん子供の口に入れる物を選ぶと良いでしょうね。
体と同じで
心も育った環境の影響を受けて出来上がりますよね。
産まれた場所で育まれた価値観は
一生取れない
だから日本では隣国嫌いが多いし
逆に隣国では反日感情
って事になるのだと思います。
であれば
相手を善悪の基準で見るのではなく
地域に根差した価値観の違い
そう言う風に捉えて
相手をただ批判するのではなく
それぞれの価値観を尊重してぶつからないように距離を置く
これが正しい付き合い方
私はそんな考えです。
国の価値観は国同士の規模で出来上がりますが
その国民の価値観も
一人一人生まれた環境で出来がって違いがある
これも間違いありません。
ですから日々の日本人同士の付き合いも
それを意識して
適度の距離感を保つ
これが人間関係を円満に営む秘訣です。
価値観の合わないものと深く付き合えば
軋轢が積もり
最後は殺し合いになる事もあります。
会社はこの価値観の違う者同士が
一緒に仕事をする訳ですから
見方によっては大変危険です。
昔は仕事が終わってから同僚で飲みに行く
なんて事は良くありましたが
酒が入って価値観の違いが表にでて喧嘩
私自身たくさん目撃しました。
私は息子が3人いますが
一番遺伝子も近く長く同じ家で暮らしたのに
違和感を感じる事は良くあります。
私とは育った環境が違うのでそうなる訳です。
ところが
沖縄に行くと
不動産屋仲間や甥や姪たちと会って酒を飲むと
私にとっては本当に楽しい空間になります。
大変話が盛り上がり
あっと言う間に時間が過ぎて行きます。
その点だけを見れば
自分の子ども達より
同じ環境で育った他人
これがしっくり来る
って事になります。
50年以上も東京で暮らしていますが
沖縄に帰ると心が休まる
それだけ成長過程で過ごした環境は
脳の深くに刻まれる
って事です。
私は永遠に東京人にはなれませんが
息子たちはすっかりナイチャーです。
不思議な物です。
The day before yesterday,
I played with a former executive of a big company.
He had worked overseas for a long time,
He said that the thing he had the most trouble with was food
.Even after years of working there,
his body never got used to the local food,
so he only ate Japanese food,
but Japanese food overseas is expensive,
so he lost a lot of money.
He said that.
Now that he's back in Japan,
he really thinks that Japan is the best country in the world.
However, he has a broad perspective,
so he's actually saying that Japan is good only for him,
and he understands that if you're not Japanese,
you feel that the country you were born and raised in is the best.
I wonder what's going to happen?
Well, the reason that your mind and body are developed to suit your environment as you grow up,
so when you become an adult and your environment changes,
you can't adapt to it.
So I think it is better that you spend your whole life in the place you were born and raised in.
I don't go abroad for long periods of time,
but even if I was traveling,
if I leave Japan for more than three days,
my digestive system obviously start to get angry.
When I was younger,
I went to America for 11 days,
and by the fourth day, I would get sick just from smelling steak or hamburger.
So from then on,
I had to survive on things like bread, nuts, and ice cream.
The first place I dashed when I arrived at Narita was a family restaurant in the service area.
I still vividly remember the joy of finally being able to eat rice.
That's why I think our internal organs remember the foods we ate as we grew up,
and reject foods that don't match that memory.
I don't like spicy food,
but that's probably because I never ate it as a child.
So the foods we eat as we grow up affect our entire lives,
so it's good for parents to choose carefully the foods to give their children a
Just like the body,
the mind is also formed by the environment
in which we grow up.
We can never lose the values we were born with.
That's why there's a lot of dislike for neighboring countries in Japan,
and conversely,
there's anti-Japanese sentiment in neighboring countries.
If that's the case,
then I think that instead of viewing others in terms of good and evil,
we should see it as a difference in values rooted in the region,
and instead of criticizing the other party,
respect each other's values and keep a distance so as not to clash.
This is the right way to interact with them.
A country's values are determined by each of the countries,
but the values of its citizens are also different for each person,
as they are formed by the environment they were born into.
Therefore, when interacting with other on a daily basis,
you should be aware of this and maintain a reasonable distance.
This is the secret to maintaining harmonious relationships.
If you get too involved with people with different values,
friction will build up and it may even lead to killing each other.
A company is a place where people with different values work together,
so depending on how you look at it,
it can be very dangerous.
In the past, it was common for colleagues to go out drinking after work,
but when they got drunk,
differences in values would come out and they fought
I have witnessed many fights myself.
I have three sons, and even though we are the closest in genes and have lived in the same house for a long time,
I often feel a sense of discomfort with them.
This is because they grew up in different environments than I did.
However,
when I go to Okinawa,
I meet up with my fellow real estate agents and my nephews and nieces and drink with them, and it is a really fun space for me.
We have a great time talking, and time flies by.
From that point of view alone,
I feel more comfortable with strangers who grew up in the same environment as me than with my own children.
I have lived in Tokyo for over 50 years,
but when I return to Okinawa,
I feel at peace.
This shows that the environment in which you grew up is deeply engraved in your brain.
I will never be a Tokyoite,
but my sons are completely natives.
It's a strange thing.