”French people are especially big liars”

Life Without S ex
By SOPHIE FONTANEL
Published: July 20, 2013

Alone in all that sun and snow, absorbing energy from the sky and mountains, I let my body breathe quietly. The freedom and whiteness of the snow and mountains produced a kind of ecstasy. And the special pleasure I found skiing in this paradise made me think about the possibilities of my body, my sensuality. And I asked myself, “Sophie, is your se xual life so very stimulating, actually?” And my answer was, “No.” I realized that even when I took pleasure, I was not ecstatic with my se xual life. In fact, I seemed to be going through the motions of lovemaking because, I thought, that’s what everybody did. I decided to take a break, to recover a true desire.





We are liars, poor liars trying to mystify one another. Perhaps French people are especially big liars. At the very least, we are full of contradictions. If you visit Paris, you will notice that we are very thin, even if we are the country of bread and cheese. We are also very se xy, but maybe it’s only a show to save our reputation.

By giving up se x, I abandoned all this pretense. During the 12 years I didn’t have s ex, I learned so much. About my body, the role of art in eroticism, the power of dreams, the softness of clothes, the refuge and the importance of elegance. That I can take more pleasure while watching Robert Redford shampooing Meryl Streep’s hair in “Out of Africa” than being in a bed with a man. Sometimes I took pleasure just by staring at men’s necks. Sometimes, just by listening to a voice. It was libido, trust me.

　セクスのない毎日は　♪　自由なまーいにーーちー♪


　バイブル圏というのは、性を罪とし、性に対する過酷な禁止を科し、そして、その反動による解放という、こちらからするとしちめんどくさい経過をたどっていて、その奇怪なプロセスにある文化圏から、そもそも、恥じらいとともに比較的おおらかな性意識の文化圏を眺めて、ギャアギャアいわれる筋合いはないわけだが・・・・それは別として、そうした様々な葛藤のある文化の潮流の一つであろう。

　日本でも、亭主と別の床に寝て、大きくなって寝れて嬉しい、なんていっている主婦は割りにいますよね。