My boyfriend is addicted to porn but doesn’t want sex
Mariella Frostrup
Sunday 20 March 2016 09.00 GMT
We spend ever-increasing time online, conducting our working lives, social lives, family lives and even our darkest fantasies via our phones and tablets, and in the process we’re becoming increasing disconnected from tangible experiences.
Your boyfriend’s migration from the place you call home to a cyberworld and his ability to better share intimacies with total strangers are both symptoms of an increasing malaise. Like many new viruses, it seems to have been born at the further reaches of human experience before spreading to all and sundry. Our increased migration to virtual sex is a perfect example, beginning with committed porn addicts for whom the internet means instant gratification without having to leave their bedrooms.
So many letters arrive in my mailbox from partners – generally women, it has to be said – whose lovers are so busy watching porn that they can’t find the inclination to actually have sex. It’s like the great British appetite for cookery programmes, which are also, for the most part, a spectator sport; we’re a nation of guzzlers, supine on our sofas, watching other people cook while devouring ready-made meals so as not to disturb our viewing time.
オンラインポルノばっかに熱中して彼女との現実のセックスを疎かにするイギリス人が増えている、と。
豪勢な料理番組をみるためにジャンクフードを食べているイギリス文化と酷似している、と。
