完全な自由と悟りの段階 (悟りの階梯) - 0
Does any of this sound or feel familiar? We could expand on it endlessly, taking in all the subtle and not-so-subtle nuances of each birth and how each baby’s life unfolds. This is enough, however, for you to get the picture―specifically, that as we lock into identifying with a particular body/mind as our own, we begin to be more highly motivated by some basic needs (the underlying wants) that reinforce our sense of separation and cause us endless suffering.
Five Basic Steps to Release Underlying Wants
下にある欲求をリリースする5つの基本的なステップ
(5つの初歩的作法が根本的な欲求をリリースします)
Every time you let go of your limiting feelings and thoughts at the underlying level of the wants, you will accelerate your progress. As stated in Chapter 1, you may notice that some areas of your life clear up, even though you never release on them directly. Since all issues relate directly to the wants, many areas shift at once as you let go of the wants.
必要とする物の下にあるレベルで制限的な感情と考えを捨てたたびに、あなたは進展を速めます。
第1章に述べられたように、たとえ直接それらの上で決してリリースしないとしても、あなたは人生の若干の領域が片づけると気がつくかもしれません。
すべての問題が直接必要とする物に関するものであるので、あなたが必要とする物を放したので、多くの地域はすぐに動きます。
(欲求の根本的なレベルであなたが感情と考えを制限することを手放すごとに、進行を加速するでしょう。
1章の中で述べられるように、生活のいくつかの領域(エリア)が整理することに気づくかもしれません。たとえあなたが直接それらの上で決してリリースしないとしても。
すべての問題が欲求に直接関係があるので、あなたが欲求を手放すとともに、多くのエリアが直ちに変わります。)
Would you rather want approval or have approval? Would you rather want control or have control? Would you rather want security or have security? The answer is obvious.
むしろ承認を望んでもらうか、承認があってもらえますか？
むしろ制御(支配)を望んでもらうか、制御(支配)をしてもらえますか？
むしろ安全(保安)を望んでもらうか、安全(保安)をしてもらえますか？
答えは明らかです。
Here is an easy five-step procedure for letting go of the wants. As you incorporate it into your daily activities, you’ll find that it gets easier. Merely bringing a want into conscious awareness will often cause you to let it go spontaneously, even before you ask the questions. These questions replace, or may be added at the end of, the series of Basic Releasing questions that you have been working with until now. From this point forward, we no longer ask the two follow-up questions “Would you?” or “When?” because, as we let go at this deeper level, the decision to let go happens more quickly and with greater spontaneity. However, please feel free to use them any time you need to, in order to support yourself in the releasing process.
ここに、欲求を手放すための容易な5ステップの手続きがあります。
毎日の活動にそれを組み入れるとともに、それがより容易になることを知るでしょう。
質問をする前にさえ、欠乏を意識的な意識へ単にもたらすとしばしばそれを自然に行かせるでしょう。
これらの質問は交換します、あるいは終わりで加えられるかもしれない、の、働いているという基礎的なリリースする疑問のシリーズ、で、今まで。
この時点から、前に、私たちは、もはや2つのフォローアップが「あなたはするでしょう?」と質問するように求めません。
あるいは「いつ」?
ので、私たちがこのより深いレベルに行かせるとして、行くことをさせる決定が、より速くより大きな自発性で起こります。
しかしながら、必要とする時は常に、リリースするプロセスで自活するために自由にそれらを使用してください。
(ここに必要とする物を放すことの簡単な5歩手続きがある。
それをあなたの毎日の活動に取り込んで、あなたはより簡単になるとわかります。
あなたが問題を尋ねる前にさえ、単に意識的な認識に貧困をもたらすだけであることはあなたにしばしば、自発的にほっておかせます。
これらの質問は代わるか、加えられるかもしれません、あなたがこれまで働いていたBasic Releasing質問の連続。
前方へこの点から、我々は、2つのフォローアップが「そうしてもらえますか？」と疑う、または、我々がこのより深いレベルに取り組ませたので行かせる決定がより速く、そして、より大きな自発性で起こるので、「いつ？」もはや尋ねません。
しかし、彼らをあなたがそうする必要があることを少しも時に、リリースしているプロセスに自立するために適切に扱ってください。)
You may do this process on your own by reading the following questions silently to yourself, or do it with the assistance of a partner.
次の質問を静かに黙読することによりこのプロセスを独力で行うか、あるいはパートナーの助けを借りてそれをするかもしれません。
Step 1: Focus on your issue and allow yourself to welcome whatever you are feeling in the NOW moment.
ステップ1:
問題に注目して、あなた自身が、あなたが今瞬間に感じているものすべてを歓迎することを可能にしてください。
Step 2: Dig a little deeper to discover whether the NOW feeling comes from a sense of wanting. Ask one of the following two questions:
ステップ2：
今の感覚が欲しい意味から来るかどうか発見するために、少しより深く掘ってください。
次の2つの質問のうちの1つを尋ねてください(質問をしてください):
• Does the feeling come from wanting approval, control, security, or separation?
• What is the sense of wanting underneath this feeling?
• 感覚は、承認か、支配か、保安か分離を望むことから来ますか？
(感覚は承認、コントロール、セキュリティあるいは分離を望むことから来ますか。)
• この感覚の下に欲しい意味は、何ですか？
(この感覚の真下に不足する感覚は何ですか。)
If you’re not sure which want is underneath the feeling, or if you feel like it may be several wants at the same time―as it often is―pick the one that you feel is dominant, is most likely, or is the one that you’d like to let go of first. Then proceed to Step 3.
本当でない場合、それは不足する、感覚の真下にある、あるいは、それが同時にいくつかの必需品かもしれないように、感じる場合?
それが頻繁なように?
支配的な最もありそうか、あなたが1位に手放したいものである、と思うものを取ってください。
次に、ステップ3に進んでください。
Step 3: Ask yourself one of the following three questions:
• Could I allow myself to want (approval, control, security, or separation)?
• Could I welcome wanting (approval, control, security, or separation)?
• Could I let go of wanting (approval, control, security, or separation)?
When you are releasing on the wants, simplify your questions. After you realize you can let the wants go, you’ll find yourself doing so without a lot of excess thought. Remember “yes” or “no” are both acceptable answers, and you’ll often let go even if you say “no.” Also, if you’d like to, give yourself permission to hold on for a moment before you let go, as this often creates the space for an even deeper release. Partners should keep asking the questions even when they hear a “no” answer. As best you can, answer the chosen question with a minimum of thought. Stay away from second-guessing yourself or getting into a debate about the merits of an action or its consequences. Whatever the response is, move on to the next step.
Please be mindful that you’re not being asked to let go of control, approval, security, or separation, merely to let go of your feeling of lacking them, of wanting.
Step 4: You may use this step at any point during the releasing process to address any feeling, want, or sense of indecision and stuckness. As you learned in Chapter 5, Your Key to Serenity, it is the safety valve of the Method.
Simply ask: Would I like to change that?
The answer will invariably be “yes.” But if you’re not entirely sure, check to see whether you like it the way it is. Any time that something is not okay with you the way it is, this indicates that you want to change it.
Then ask: Could I let go of wanting to change it?
In most cases, even if you are stuck, you’ll be able to answer “yes” to this question. Letting go of wanting to change it will dissolve the stuckness and put you right back on track. As you’ll recall, wanting to change is a subset of wanting to control.
Step 5: Repeat the preceding four steps as often as needed until you feel free of the specific want on which you’re working.
Lester believed it was more important to focus on wanting approval, control, and security than on wanting to be separate when we release. He felt that if we were to let go enough of the first three wants, the sense of wanting to be separate would drop away by itself. This was certainly part of his process. Except in this chapter and the next, our releasing
questions throughout most of the book will focus almost exclusively on approval, control, and security. Of course, if you find yourself aware of wanting to be separate, please feel free to let go of this want as well.
この音のいずれか、または身近に感じていますか？私たちは、それぞれの誕生のすべての微妙なと、それほどではない微妙なニュアンスで、どのようにそれぞれの赤ちゃんの人生が展開しながら、延々とそれを拡張することができます。あなたは私たちが私たち自身のように特定の身体/心と識別にロックとして、我々は我々を強化するいくつかの基本的なニーズ（基本的には望んでいる）ことで、より意欲的であることが始まることを、絵に描いた特に取得するためにしかし、これは十分である分離感、私達に無限の苦しみを引き起こす。
下にある欲求をリリースする5つの基本的なステップ
(5つの初歩的作法が根本的な欲求をリリースします)
あなたが望んでいるの基礎レベルで制限する感情や思考を手放すたびに、あなたの進歩を加速していきます。第1章で述べたように、あなたが直接それらに解放しないにもかかわらず、あなたの人生の一部の地域は晴れることがあります。すべての問題が望んに直接関係するので、あなたが望んでいるを手放すように、多くの地域では、一度にシフト。
するのではなく承認をしたい、または承認を持っているでしょうか？するのではなくコントロールしたい、またはコントロールを持っているでしょうか？するのではなく、セキュリティをしたい、またはセキュリティを持っているでしょうか？答えは明白です。
ここたいを手放すための簡単な5ステップの手順です。あなたの毎日の活動に組み込むように、あなたはそれが容易になることがわかります。単に意識的な意識にしたい持参すると、多くの場合、あなたが質問をする前であっても、それが自発的に行くようになります。これらの質問は、交換、またはあなたが今までに取り組んできたことを基本的な解放一連の質問の最後に加えてもよい。我々は、この深いレベルで手放すとして、のでこれ以降、私たちはもはや、 "いつ？" "あなたでしょう？"フォローアップ2質問をしないか、手放すの決定は、より迅速に、より大きな自発性で起こる。しかしながら、解放処理で自分自身をサポートするために、それらにあなたがする必要がある任意の時間を使用すること自由に感じなさい。
あなたは、自分自身に静かに次の質問を読んで、自分でこのプロセスを実行するか、パートナーの助けを借りてそれを行うことがあります。
ステップ1：あなたの問題に焦点を当て、自分であなたが今の瞬間に感じている何でも歓迎することができます。
ステップ2：NOW感が欲しいという意味から来ているかどうかを発見するために少し深く掘る。次の二つの質問のいずれかを尋ねる。
•感が承認、制御、セキュリティ、または分離を望むから来るのでしょうか？
•この気持ち下たいという感覚とは何ですか？
あなたがしたいかわからない場合は気持ちの下にあるか、それは、いくつかのかもしれないように感じている場合、それは頻繁にあなたが支配的であると感じているものをピックアップされると、時間と同じで望んで、可能性が最も高い、または1であるまず最初に手放すしたいのですが。その後、ステップ3に進みます。
ステップ3：自分自身に次の3つの質問のいずれかを確認する：
•私は（承認、制御、セキュリティ、または分離）自分がしたいことができてもらえますか？
•私は（承認、制御、セキュリティ、または分離）望む歓迎してもらえますか？
•私は（承認、制御、セキュリティ、または分離）たいを手放すだろうか？
あなたが望んでリリースされている場合、あなたの質問を簡素化します。あなたは行くがっさせることができ実感した後、あなた自身が過剰思考の多くせずにそうするでしょう。 "yes"または "no"を覚えていると、両方の許容の答えであり、あなたはまた、 "ノー"と言ってもあなたがしたい場合は、手放す前には、多くの場合、自分自身にちょっとの間で保持するために許可を与え、手放すよ、これはしばしばより深い解放のためのスペースを作成するように。パートナーは、彼らが "いいえ"の答えを聞いたときにも、質問をしておく必要があります。ベストとして、あなたは、思考の最小選ば質問に答えることができます。自分を第二推測やアクションやその結果のメリットについての議論に入る近づか。応答が何であれ、次のステップに進みます。
あなたがただ望むのは、それを欠いているのあなたの気持ちを手放すことを、制御、承認、セキュリティ、または分離を手放すことを求められていないことを留意してください。
ステップ4：あなたはどんな感じ、欲しい、または優柔不断とstuckness感に対処するために解放処理中の任意の時点で、このステップを使用することができます。あなたは第5章で学んだように、セレニティへの鍵は、それが法の安全弁である。
単に頼む：私はそれを変更しますか？
答えは常に "はい"であるしかし、もしあなたが完全にわからない場合、あなたはそれを、それがある方法を好むかどうかを確認します。何かがあなたのそれは方法で大丈夫ではないことをいつでも、これはあなたがそれを変更したいことを示しています。
次に頼む：私はそれを変更したいを手放すだろうか？
ほとんどの場合、あなたが立ち往生している場合でも、あなたはこの質問に "yes"と答えることができるでしょう。せ、それがstucknessを溶解し、トラック上で右バックあなたを配置します変更したいの行く。あなたが思い出すとわかるように、変更したいことを制御したいのサブセットです。
ステップ5：あなたが作業している特定の希望のを無料で感じるまで頻繁に必要に応じて前述の4つのステップを繰り返します。
レスターは、それは我々が離したときに別々になりたいよりも、承認、制御、およびセキュリティを望むに焦点を当てることがより重要だと信じていた。彼は、我々は最初の三つの欲求を十分に手放すした場合、別々になりたい感自体が離れて落とすだろうと感じました。これは確かに彼のプロセスの一部であった。この章と次の場合を除き、我々は解放する
本のほとんど全体の質問がほぼ独占的に承認、制御、およびセキュリティに焦点を当てます。別々になりたいのあなた自身が知って発見した場合、もちろん、同様にしたいこれを手放すこと自由に感じなさい。
-----
Lester Levenson used to say, “Release and allow yourself to see the perfection where the seeming imperfection seems to be.”
page=16
page=16
e ease and simplicity of your parents and your world controlling you; simultaneously, you want to assert your will over your world. You want to get approval or even disapproval from outside of you, yet you also want to go back to being in love with all that is. You want to be safe and secure, and survive, but you also want the sense of being a separate entity to die and disappear. You long to be in unity again―one with all that is―yet you are driven to assert your separate, unique identity.
Now, for some of us, developing separation is a gradual process, starting way before we are two; for others, it is quite sudden. But there appears to be no turning back for anybody, unless, as they get older, they do a process such as the one you are learning in this book. No matter how much we long for the security and unity we felt when we were very young, the developmental process runs its course.
Does any of this sound or feel familiar? We could expand on it endlessly, taking in all the subtle and not-so-subtle nuances of each birth and how each baby’s life unfolds. This is enough, however, for you to get the picture―specifically, that as we lock into identifying with a particular body/mind as our own, we begin to be more highly motivated by some basic needs (the underlying wants) that reinforce our sense of separation and cause us endless suffering.
Five Basic Steps to Release Underlying Wants
Every time you let go of your limiting feelings and thoughts at the underlying level of the wants, you will accelerate your progress. As stated in Chapter 1, you may notice that some areas of your life clear up, even though you never release on them directly. Since all issues relate directly to the wants, many areas shift at once as you let go of the wants.
Would you rather want approval or have approval? Would you rather want control or have control? Would you rather want security or have security? The answer is obvious.
Here is an easy five-step procedure for letting go of the wants. As you incorporate it into your daily activities, you’ll find that it gets easier. Merely bringing a want into conscious awareness will often cause you to let it go spontaneously, even before you ask the questions. These questions replace, or may be added at the end of, the series of Basic Releasing questions that you have been working with until now. From this point forward, we no longer ask the two follow-up questions “Would you?” or “When?” because, as we let go at this deeper level, the decision to let go happens more quickly and with greater spontaneity. However, please feel free to use them any time you need to, in order to support yourself in the releasing process.
You may do this process on your own by reading the following questions silently to yourself, or do it with the assistance of a partner.
Step 1: Focus on your issue and allow yourself to welcome whatever you are feeling in the NOW moment.
Step 2: Dig a little deeper to discover whether the NOW feeling comes from a sense of wanting. Ask one of the following two questions:
• Does the feeling come from wanting approval, control, security, or separation?
• What is the sense of wanting underneath this feeling?
If you’re not sure which want is underneath the feeling, or if you feel like it may be several wants at the same time―as it often is―pick the one that you feel is dominant, is most likely, or is the one that you’d like to let go of first. Then proceed to Step 3.
Step 3: Ask yourself one of the following three questions:
• Could I allow myself to want (approval, control, security, or separation)?
• Could I welcome wanting (approval, control, security, or separation)?
• Could I let go of wanting (approval, control, security, or separation)?
When you are releasing on the wants, simplify your questions. After you realize you can let the wants go, you’ll find yourself doing so without a lot of excess thought. Remember “yes” or “no” are both acceptable answers, and you’ll often let go even if you say “no.” Also, if you’d like to, give yourself permission to hold on for a moment before you let go, as this often creates the space for an even deeper release. Partners should keep asking the questions even when they hear a “no” answer. As best you can, answer the chosen question with a minimum of thought. Stay away from second-guessing yourself or getting into a debate about the merits of an action or its consequences. Whatever the response is, move on to the next step.
Please be mindful that you’re not being asked to let go of control, approval, security, or separation, merely to let go of your feeling of lacking them, of wanting.
Step 4: You may use this step at any point during the releasing process to address any feeling, want, or sense of indecision and stuckness. As you learned in Chapter 5, Your Key to Serenity, it is the safety valve of the Method.
Simply ask: Would I like to change that?
The answer will invariably be “yes.” But if you’re not entirely sure, check to see whether you like it the way it is. Any time that something is not okay with you the way it is, this indicates that you want to change it.
Then ask: Could I let go of wanting to change it?
In most cases, even if you are stuck, you’ll be able to answer “yes” to this question. Letting go of wanting to change it will dissolve the stuckness and put you right back on track. As you’ll recall, wanting to change is a subset of wanting to control.
Step 5: Repeat the preceding four steps as often as needed until you feel free of the specific want on which you’re working.
Lester believed it was more important to focus on wanting approval, control, and security than on wanting to be separate when we release. He felt that if we were to let go enough of the first three wants, the sense of wanting to be separate would drop away by itself. This was certainly part of his process. Except in this chapter and the next, our releasing
questions throughout most of the book will focus almost exclusively on approval, control, and security. Of course, if you find yourself aware of wanting to be separate, please feel free to let go of this want as well.
“My daughter and I had a dysfunctional relationship and had lost touch. After learning how to release, I began looking for her again, and we have now reconnected. We not only have resolved our differences, but my daughter is now releasing, too! We communicate better now than we have in years.”―Carole Dunham, Miami, FL
Exploration: Seeing Through to Perfection by Letting Go of the Wants
Lester Levenson used to say, “Release and allow yourself to see the perfection where the seeming imperfection seems to be.” During this process, welcome your thoughts, your sensations, your feelings, and the stories that you tell yourself. Just allow them all to be here, and know that everything is okay as it is. Part of what happens when we release this is that we start to recognize the perfection underlying our thoughts and feelings.
Begin by making yourself comfortable and focusing your attention inwardly.
Now, bring to mind one of the main issues that you’ve been working on in this book so far, or a new or different issue that’s currently up in your awareness. As you think about that situation, problem, intention, or goal, allow yourself to get in touch with your feelings about it right in this very moment.
Could you welcome that feeling?
Now, dig a little deeper and see if you can determine whether the NOW feeling comes from wanting approval, control, security, or separation. As you let go of the wants, remember that there is nothing wrong with having approval, control, security, or oneness; you are merely letting go of the sense, or feeling, of lacking them.
Whichever want it is, ask: Could you just allow yourself to feel it? Embrace it fully.
Then, could you let it go?
Look at the same issue again and see what your NOW feeling is about it.
Does the feeling come from wanting approval, control, survival, or separation?
Could you let that sense of wanting go? Could you allow it to release?
Now, focus on your issue again and see if there’s anything about it that’s stirring up resistance. You could be resisting it changing, you could be resisting it the way it is, or there might be a specific aspect of it towards which you feel resistant.
Could you allow yourself to feel the resistance?
Then, could you allow yourself to let it go?
See if there’s something else about this issue that you’re resisting.
Could you let go of resisting it?
Remember, resistance is pushing against the world so that it will push back. It is saying that things aren’t okay the way they are and digging our heels in against them.
Repeat the last few steps on resistance two or three more times, then move on.
Now, see if there is anything about this issue that you’d like to change.
Could you let go of wanting to change it?
Find something else about the issue, or the way you feel about it, that you’d like to change.
Could you let go of wanting to change it?
Is there anything about the issue that seems stuck in any way?
Do you want to change that sense of stuckness?
Could you let go of wanting to change that sense of stuckness?
Check again: Is there anything about the way you feel about the issue or your attitude about the issue that seems stuck?
When we feel stuck, we want to make things different, but that makes us even more stuck. To let go of stuckness, all we need to do is let go of wanting to change what is.
So, could you let go of wanting to change whatever sense of stuckness you might be feeling right now?
Now, notice how you feel about the issue right now. Observe how your feelings have already shifted. This bit of the process has probably made a huge difference already.
Underneath your issue, is there anything that you’d like to control, such as the way you feel about it or the way that it seems to be?
Could you welcome that sense of wanting to control?
Then, could you let it go?
Repeat the above series of questions several more times, each time noticing how your energy about the issue is shifting and clearing up any remaining sense of wanting to control that’s associated with it.
Now, is there anything about this issue―how you feel about it, how you’re interacting with other people in relationship to it, or how you’re relating to yourself about it―that stirs up a sense of wanting your own or anyone else’s approval?
Could you welcome how much you want approval?
Could you let the wanting go?
Repeat the above series of questions several more times, clearing up any remaining sense of wanting approval there is.
Now, let’s dig even deeper. Is there anything about this situation, problem, or issue that stirs up a sense of wanting safety, security, or survival?
Could you just allow yourself to feel the sense of wanting security?
Then, could you let it go?
Focus on the situation again and see if you can find anything about it that makes you feel a little insecure or a little threatened, and notice how that comes from wanting security or survival.
Could you let go of wanting security or survival?
Repeat the above series of questions several more times, clearing up any remaining sense of wanting safety or security there is.
Now, simply tune in and become aware of how you’re feeling inside. Notice that you’re probably feeling a lot more space and lightness. If there’s any sense of wanting to hold on to that good feeling, notice how it comes from wanting to control. Also, realize that there are plenty more good feelings where that came from. Our feelings of limitation are finite, whereas good feelings are infinite.
So, could you let go of wanting to control the good feeling and just let it be?
Now, relax into whatever you’re feeling in the moment. Welcome it fully. Every time we welcome a feeling fully, we’re letting go of wanting to change or control it. We are accepting it as it is, at least for the present moment. If there’s still a remaining sense of contraction or negativity about your issue, switch your focus to the increased lightness that you’re aware of―just for now―and give yourself over to that.
Let it have you as best you can.
Relax into it.
Allow yourself to be at rest.
The natural goodness that you’re feeling inside is always present, no matter how extreme your feelings may become. The goodness resides underneath your emotions and thoughts, and it’s available to you any time you shift your focus in its direction. All the power of your unlimited potential is available to you, and it can naturally dissolve your remaining sense of limitation if you allow it.
Could you allow yourself to let go even more into this present moment and trust the power that knows the way?
Allow yourself, even for this moment, to see the perfection where the seeming imperfection seems to be.
For a moment, could you entertain the idea that maybe all is well and everything is unfolding as it should?
Now, in a moment, gradually start shifting your awareness outwardly again and know that everything you’ve gained from this process is with you forever. Every process is a beginning, an opening to the life that you’ve always wanted, and a discovery of what’s really true for you.
So, allow this to flow easily into your life.
Use this process―and the perspective it offers―as often as you’d like to gain more freedom on a specific issue, or simply to feel happier and more alive.
Chapter 7 - Letting Go of the Four Basic Wants
第7章 - 4つの基礎的な欲求を手放します
As he explored his own process, Lester Levenson spent a good deal of time reviewing his past and letting go of his inner motivations. He discovered that, as people clean up the past relating to the four basic wants, the heavy burdens they’ve been carrying from their personal histories can easily be put down, never
Does any of this sound or feel familiar? We could expand on it endlessly, taking in all the subtle and not-so-subtle nuances of each birth and how each baby’s life unfolds. This is enough, however, for you to get the picture―specifically, that as we lock into identifying with a particular body/mind as our own, we begin to be more highly motivated by some basic needs (the underlying wants) that reinforce our sense of separation and cause us endless suffering.
Five Basic Steps to Release Underlying Wants
下にある欲求をリリースする5つの基本的なステップ
(5つの初歩的作法が根本的な欲求をリリースします)
Every time you let go of your limiting feelings and thoughts at the underlying level of the wants, you will accelerate your progress. As stated in Chapter 1, you may notice that some areas of your life clear up, even though you never release on them directly. Since all issues relate directly to the wants, many areas shift at once as you let go of the wants.
必要とする物の下にあるレベルで制限的な感情と考えを捨てたたびに、あなたは進展を速めます。
第1章に述べられたように、たとえ直接それらの上で決してリリースしないとしても、あなたは人生の若干の領域が片づけると気がつくかもしれません。
すべての問題が直接必要とする物に関するものであるので、あなたが必要とする物を放したので、多くの地域はすぐに動きます。
(欲求の根本的なレベルであなたが感情と考えを制限することを手放すごとに、進行を加速するでしょう。
1章の中で述べられるように、生活のいくつかの領域(エリア)が整理することに気づくかもしれません。たとえあなたが直接それらの上で決してリリースしないとしても。
すべての問題が欲求に直接関係があるので、あなたが欲求を手放すとともに、多くのエリアが直ちに変わります。)
Would you rather want approval or have approval? Would you rather want control or have control? Would you rather want security or have security? The answer is obvious.
むしろ承認を望んでもらうか、承認があってもらえますか？
むしろ制御(支配)を望んでもらうか、制御(支配)をしてもらえますか？
むしろ安全(保安)を望んでもらうか、安全(保安)をしてもらえますか？
答えは明らかです。
Here is an easy five-step procedure for letting go of the wants. As you incorporate it into your daily activities, you’ll find that it gets easier. Merely bringing a want into conscious awareness will often cause you to let it go spontaneously, even before you ask the questions. These questions replace, or may be added at the end of, the series of Basic Releasing questions that you have been working with until now. From this point forward, we no longer ask the two follow-up questions “Would you?” or “When?” because, as we let go at this deeper level, the decision to let go happens more quickly and with greater spontaneity. However, please feel free to use them any time you need to, in order to support yourself in the releasing process.
ここに、欲求を手放すための容易な5ステップの手続きがあります。
毎日の活動にそれを組み入れるとともに、それがより容易になることを知るでしょう。
質問をする前にさえ、欠乏を意識的な意識へ単にもたらすとしばしばそれを自然に行かせるでしょう。
これらの質問は交換します、あるいは終わりで加えられるかもしれない、の、働いているという基礎的なリリースする疑問のシリーズ、で、今まで。
この時点から、前に、私たちは、もはや2つのフォローアップが「あなたはするでしょう?」と質問するように求めません。
あるいは「いつ」?
ので、私たちがこのより深いレベルに行かせるとして、行くことをさせる決定が、より速くより大きな自発性で起こります。
しかしながら、必要とする時は常に、リリースするプロセスで自活するために自由にそれらを使用してください。
(ここに必要とする物を放すことの簡単な5歩手続きがある。
それをあなたの毎日の活動に取り込んで、あなたはより簡単になるとわかります。
あなたが問題を尋ねる前にさえ、単に意識的な認識に貧困をもたらすだけであることはあなたにしばしば、自発的にほっておかせます。
これらの質問は代わるか、加えられるかもしれません、あなたがこれまで働いていたBasic Releasing質問の連続。
前方へこの点から、我々は、2つのフォローアップが「そうしてもらえますか？」と疑う、または、我々がこのより深いレベルに取り組ませたので行かせる決定がより速く、そして、より大きな自発性で起こるので、「いつ？」もはや尋ねません。
しかし、彼らをあなたがそうする必要があることを少しも時に、リリースしているプロセスに自立するために適切に扱ってください。)
You may do this process on your own by reading the following questions silently to yourself, or do it with the assistance of a partner.
次の質問を静かに黙読することによりこのプロセスを独力で行うか、あるいはパートナーの助けを借りてそれをするかもしれません。
Step 1: Focus on your issue and allow yourself to welcome whatever you are feeling in the NOW moment.
ステップ1:
問題に注目して、あなた自身が、あなたが今瞬間に感じているものすべてを歓迎することを可能にしてください。
Step 2: Dig a little deeper to discover whether the NOW feeling comes from a sense of wanting. Ask one of the following two questions:
ステップ2：
今の感覚が欲しい意味から来るかどうか発見するために、少しより深く掘ってください。
次の2つの質問のうちの1つを尋ねてください(質問をしてください):
• Does the feeling come from wanting approval, control, security, or separation?
• What is the sense of wanting underneath this feeling?
• 感覚は、承認か、支配か、保安か分離を望むことから来ますか？
(感覚は承認、コントロール、セキュリティあるいは分離を望むことから来ますか。)
• この感覚の下に欲しい意味は、何ですか？
(この感覚の真下に不足する感覚は何ですか。)
If you’re not sure which want is underneath the feeling, or if you feel like it may be several wants at the same time―as it often is―pick the one that you feel is dominant, is most likely, or is the one that you’d like to let go of first. Then proceed to Step 3.
本当でない場合、それは不足する、感覚の真下にある、あるいは、それが同時にいくつかの必需品かもしれないように、感じる場合?
それが頻繁なように?
支配的な最もありそうか、あなたが1位に手放したいものである、と思うものを取ってください。
次に、ステップ3に進んでください。
Step 3: Ask yourself one of the following three questions:
• Could I allow myself to want (approval, control, security, or separation)?
• Could I welcome wanting (approval, control, security, or separation)?
• Could I let go of wanting (approval, control, security, or separation)?
When you are releasing on the wants, simplify your questions. After you realize you can let the wants go, you’ll find yourself doing so without a lot of excess thought. Remember “yes” or “no” are both acceptable answers, and you’ll often let go even if you say “no.” Also, if you’d like to, give yourself permission to hold on for a moment before you let go, as this often creates the space for an even deeper release. Partners should keep asking the questions even when they hear a “no” answer. As best you can, answer the chosen question with a minimum of thought. Stay away from second-guessing yourself or getting into a debate about the merits of an action or its consequences. Whatever the response is, move on to the next step.
Please be mindful that you’re not being asked to let go of control, approval, security, or separation, merely to let go of your feeling of lacking them, of wanting.
Step 4: You may use this step at any point during the releasing process to address any feeling, want, or sense of indecision and stuckness. As you learned in Chapter 5, Your Key to Serenity, it is the safety valve of the Method.
Simply ask: Would I like to change that?
The answer will invariably be “yes.” But if you’re not entirely sure, check to see whether you like it the way it is. Any time that something is not okay with you the way it is, this indicates that you want to change it.
Then ask: Could I let go of wanting to change it?
In most cases, even if you are stuck, you’ll be able to answer “yes” to this question. Letting go of wanting to change it will dissolve the stuckness and put you right back on track. As you’ll recall, wanting to change is a subset of wanting to control.
Step 5: Repeat the preceding four steps as often as needed until you feel free of the specific want on which you’re working.
Lester believed it was more important to focus on wanting approval, control, and security than on wanting to be separate when we release. He felt that if we were to let go enough of the first three wants, the sense of wanting to be separate would drop away by itself. This was certainly part of his process. Except in this chapter and the next, our releasing
questions throughout most of the book will focus almost exclusively on approval, control, and security. Of course, if you find yourself aware of wanting to be separate, please feel free to let go of this want as well.
この音のいずれか、または身近に感じていますか？私たちは、それぞれの誕生のすべての微妙なと、それほどではない微妙なニュアンスで、どのようにそれぞれの赤ちゃんの人生が展開しながら、延々とそれを拡張することができます。あなたは私たちが私たち自身のように特定の身体/心と識別にロックとして、我々は我々を強化するいくつかの基本的なニーズ（基本的には望んでいる）ことで、より意欲的であることが始まることを、絵に描いた特に取得するためにしかし、これは十分である分離感、私達に無限の苦しみを引き起こす。
下にある欲求をリリースする5つの基本的なステップ
(5つの初歩的作法が根本的な欲求をリリースします)
あなたが望んでいるの基礎レベルで制限する感情や思考を手放すたびに、あなたの進歩を加速していきます。第1章で述べたように、あなたが直接それらに解放しないにもかかわらず、あなたの人生の一部の地域は晴れることがあります。すべての問題が望んに直接関係するので、あなたが望んでいるを手放すように、多くの地域では、一度にシフト。
するのではなく承認をしたい、または承認を持っているでしょうか？するのではなくコントロールしたい、またはコントロールを持っているでしょうか？するのではなく、セキュリティをしたい、またはセキュリティを持っているでしょうか？答えは明白です。
ここたいを手放すための簡単な5ステップの手順です。あなたの毎日の活動に組み込むように、あなたはそれが容易になることがわかります。単に意識的な意識にしたい持参すると、多くの場合、あなたが質問をする前であっても、それが自発的に行くようになります。これらの質問は、交換、またはあなたが今までに取り組んできたことを基本的な解放一連の質問の最後に加えてもよい。我々は、この深いレベルで手放すとして、のでこれ以降、私たちはもはや、 "いつ？" "あなたでしょう？"フォローアップ2質問をしないか、手放すの決定は、より迅速に、より大きな自発性で起こる。しかしながら、解放処理で自分自身をサポートするために、それらにあなたがする必要がある任意の時間を使用すること自由に感じなさい。
あなたは、自分自身に静かに次の質問を読んで、自分でこのプロセスを実行するか、パートナーの助けを借りてそれを行うことがあります。
ステップ1：あなたの問題に焦点を当て、自分であなたが今の瞬間に感じている何でも歓迎することができます。
ステップ2：NOW感が欲しいという意味から来ているかどうかを発見するために少し深く掘る。次の二つの質問のいずれかを尋ねる。
•感が承認、制御、セキュリティ、または分離を望むから来るのでしょうか？
•この気持ち下たいという感覚とは何ですか？
あなたがしたいかわからない場合は気持ちの下にあるか、それは、いくつかのかもしれないように感じている場合、それは頻繁にあなたが支配的であると感じているものをピックアップされると、時間と同じで望んで、可能性が最も高い、または1であるまず最初に手放すしたいのですが。その後、ステップ3に進みます。
ステップ3：自分自身に次の3つの質問のいずれかを確認する：
•私は（承認、制御、セキュリティ、または分離）自分がしたいことができてもらえますか？
•私は（承認、制御、セキュリティ、または分離）望む歓迎してもらえますか？
•私は（承認、制御、セキュリティ、または分離）たいを手放すだろうか？
あなたが望んでリリースされている場合、あなたの質問を簡素化します。あなたは行くがっさせることができ実感した後、あなた自身が過剰思考の多くせずにそうするでしょう。 "yes"または "no"を覚えていると、両方の許容の答えであり、あなたはまた、 "ノー"と言ってもあなたがしたい場合は、手放す前には、多くの場合、自分自身にちょっとの間で保持するために許可を与え、手放すよ、これはしばしばより深い解放のためのスペースを作成するように。パートナーは、彼らが "いいえ"の答えを聞いたときにも、質問をしておく必要があります。ベストとして、あなたは、思考の最小選ば質問に答えることができます。自分を第二推測やアクションやその結果のメリットについての議論に入る近づか。応答が何であれ、次のステップに進みます。
あなたがただ望むのは、それを欠いているのあなたの気持ちを手放すことを、制御、承認、セキュリティ、または分離を手放すことを求められていないことを留意してください。
ステップ4：あなたはどんな感じ、欲しい、または優柔不断とstuckness感に対処するために解放処理中の任意の時点で、このステップを使用することができます。あなたは第5章で学んだように、セレニティへの鍵は、それが法の安全弁である。
単に頼む：私はそれを変更しますか？
答えは常に "はい"であるしかし、もしあなたが完全にわからない場合、あなたはそれを、それがある方法を好むかどうかを確認します。何かがあなたのそれは方法で大丈夫ではないことをいつでも、これはあなたがそれを変更したいことを示しています。
次に頼む：私はそれを変更したいを手放すだろうか？
ほとんどの場合、あなたが立ち往生している場合でも、あなたはこの質問に "yes"と答えることができるでしょう。せ、それがstucknessを溶解し、トラック上で右バックあなたを配置します変更したいの行く。あなたが思い出すとわかるように、変更したいことを制御したいのサブセットです。
ステップ5：あなたが作業している特定の希望のを無料で感じるまで頻繁に必要に応じて前述の4つのステップを繰り返します。
レスターは、それは我々が離したときに別々になりたいよりも、承認、制御、およびセキュリティを望むに焦点を当てることがより重要だと信じていた。彼は、我々は最初の三つの欲求を十分に手放すした場合、別々になりたい感自体が離れて落とすだろうと感じました。これは確かに彼のプロセスの一部であった。この章と次の場合を除き、我々は解放する
本のほとんど全体の質問がほぼ独占的に承認、制御、およびセキュリティに焦点を当てます。別々になりたいのあなた自身が知って発見した場合、もちろん、同様にしたいこれを手放すこと自由に感じなさい。
-----
Lester Levenson used to say, “Release and allow yourself to see the perfection where the seeming imperfection seems to be.”
page=16
page=16
e ease and simplicity of your parents and your world controlling you; simultaneously, you want to assert your will over your world. You want to get approval or even disapproval from outside of you, yet you also want to go back to being in love with all that is. You want to be safe and secure, and survive, but you also want the sense of being a separate entity to die and disappear. You long to be in unity again―one with all that is―yet you are driven to assert your separate, unique identity.
Now, for some of us, developing separation is a gradual process, starting way before we are two; for others, it is quite sudden. But there appears to be no turning back for anybody, unless, as they get older, they do a process such as the one you are learning in this book. No matter how much we long for the security and unity we felt when we were very young, the developmental process runs its course.
Does any of this sound or feel familiar? We could expand on it endlessly, taking in all the subtle and not-so-subtle nuances of each birth and how each baby’s life unfolds. This is enough, however, for you to get the picture―specifically, that as we lock into identifying with a particular body/mind as our own, we begin to be more highly motivated by some basic needs (the underlying wants) that reinforce our sense of separation and cause us endless suffering.
Five Basic Steps to Release Underlying Wants
Every time you let go of your limiting feelings and thoughts at the underlying level of the wants, you will accelerate your progress. As stated in Chapter 1, you may notice that some areas of your life clear up, even though you never release on them directly. Since all issues relate directly to the wants, many areas shift at once as you let go of the wants.
Would you rather want approval or have approval? Would you rather want control or have control? Would you rather want security or have security? The answer is obvious.
Here is an easy five-step procedure for letting go of the wants. As you incorporate it into your daily activities, you’ll find that it gets easier. Merely bringing a want into conscious awareness will often cause you to let it go spontaneously, even before you ask the questions. These questions replace, or may be added at the end of, the series of Basic Releasing questions that you have been working with until now. From this point forward, we no longer ask the two follow-up questions “Would you?” or “When?” because, as we let go at this deeper level, the decision to let go happens more quickly and with greater spontaneity. However, please feel free to use them any time you need to, in order to support yourself in the releasing process.
You may do this process on your own by reading the following questions silently to yourself, or do it with the assistance of a partner.
Step 1: Focus on your issue and allow yourself to welcome whatever you are feeling in the NOW moment.
Step 2: Dig a little deeper to discover whether the NOW feeling comes from a sense of wanting. Ask one of the following two questions:
• Does the feeling come from wanting approval, control, security, or separation?
• What is the sense of wanting underneath this feeling?
If you’re not sure which want is underneath the feeling, or if you feel like it may be several wants at the same time―as it often is―pick the one that you feel is dominant, is most likely, or is the one that you’d like to let go of first. Then proceed to Step 3.
Step 3: Ask yourself one of the following three questions:
• Could I allow myself to want (approval, control, security, or separation)?
• Could I welcome wanting (approval, control, security, or separation)?
• Could I let go of wanting (approval, control, security, or separation)?
When you are releasing on the wants, simplify your questions. After you realize you can let the wants go, you’ll find yourself doing so without a lot of excess thought. Remember “yes” or “no” are both acceptable answers, and you’ll often let go even if you say “no.” Also, if you’d like to, give yourself permission to hold on for a moment before you let go, as this often creates the space for an even deeper release. Partners should keep asking the questions even when they hear a “no” answer. As best you can, answer the chosen question with a minimum of thought. Stay away from second-guessing yourself or getting into a debate about the merits of an action or its consequences. Whatever the response is, move on to the next step.
Please be mindful that you’re not being asked to let go of control, approval, security, or separation, merely to let go of your feeling of lacking them, of wanting.
Step 4: You may use this step at any point during the releasing process to address any feeling, want, or sense of indecision and stuckness. As you learned in Chapter 5, Your Key to Serenity, it is the safety valve of the Method.
Simply ask: Would I like to change that?
The answer will invariably be “yes.” But if you’re not entirely sure, check to see whether you like it the way it is. Any time that something is not okay with you the way it is, this indicates that you want to change it.
Then ask: Could I let go of wanting to change it?
In most cases, even if you are stuck, you’ll be able to answer “yes” to this question. Letting go of wanting to change it will dissolve the stuckness and put you right back on track. As you’ll recall, wanting to change is a subset of wanting to control.
Step 5: Repeat the preceding four steps as often as needed until you feel free of the specific want on which you’re working.
Lester believed it was more important to focus on wanting approval, control, and security than on wanting to be separate when we release. He felt that if we were to let go enough of the first three wants, the sense of wanting to be separate would drop away by itself. This was certainly part of his process. Except in this chapter and the next, our releasing
questions throughout most of the book will focus almost exclusively on approval, control, and security. Of course, if you find yourself aware of wanting to be separate, please feel free to let go of this want as well.
“My daughter and I had a dysfunctional relationship and had lost touch. After learning how to release, I began looking for her again, and we have now reconnected. We not only have resolved our differences, but my daughter is now releasing, too! We communicate better now than we have in years.”―Carole Dunham, Miami, FL
Exploration: Seeing Through to Perfection by Letting Go of the Wants
Lester Levenson used to say, “Release and allow yourself to see the perfection where the seeming imperfection seems to be.” During this process, welcome your thoughts, your sensations, your feelings, and the stories that you tell yourself. Just allow them all to be here, and know that everything is okay as it is. Part of what happens when we release this is that we start to recognize the perfection underlying our thoughts and feelings.
Begin by making yourself comfortable and focusing your attention inwardly.
Now, bring to mind one of the main issues that you’ve been working on in this book so far, or a new or different issue that’s currently up in your awareness. As you think about that situation, problem, intention, or goal, allow yourself to get in touch with your feelings about it right in this very moment.
Could you welcome that feeling?
Now, dig a little deeper and see if you can determine whether the NOW feeling comes from wanting approval, control, security, or separation. As you let go of the wants, remember that there is nothing wrong with having approval, control, security, or oneness; you are merely letting go of the sense, or feeling, of lacking them.
Whichever want it is, ask: Could you just allow yourself to feel it? Embrace it fully.
Then, could you let it go?
Look at the same issue again and see what your NOW feeling is about it.
Does the feeling come from wanting approval, control, survival, or separation?
Could you let that sense of wanting go? Could you allow it to release?
Now, focus on your issue again and see if there’s anything about it that’s stirring up resistance. You could be resisting it changing, you could be resisting it the way it is, or there might be a specific aspect of it towards which you feel resistant.
Could you allow yourself to feel the resistance?
Then, could you allow yourself to let it go?
See if there’s something else about this issue that you’re resisting.
Could you let go of resisting it?
Remember, resistance is pushing against the world so that it will push back. It is saying that things aren’t okay the way they are and digging our heels in against them.
Repeat the last few steps on resistance two or three more times, then move on.
Now, see if there is anything about this issue that you’d like to change.
Could you let go of wanting to change it?
Find something else about the issue, or the way you feel about it, that you’d like to change.
Could you let go of wanting to change it?
Is there anything about the issue that seems stuck in any way?
Do you want to change that sense of stuckness?
Could you let go of wanting to change that sense of stuckness?
Check again: Is there anything about the way you feel about the issue or your attitude about the issue that seems stuck?
When we feel stuck, we want to make things different, but that makes us even more stuck. To let go of stuckness, all we need to do is let go of wanting to change what is.
So, could you let go of wanting to change whatever sense of stuckness you might be feeling right now?
Now, notice how you feel about the issue right now. Observe how your feelings have already shifted. This bit of the process has probably made a huge difference already.
Underneath your issue, is there anything that you’d like to control, such as the way you feel about it or the way that it seems to be?
Could you welcome that sense of wanting to control?
Then, could you let it go?
Repeat the above series of questions several more times, each time noticing how your energy about the issue is shifting and clearing up any remaining sense of wanting to control that’s associated with it.
Now, is there anything about this issue―how you feel about it, how you’re interacting with other people in relationship to it, or how you’re relating to yourself about it―that stirs up a sense of wanting your own or anyone else’s approval?
Could you welcome how much you want approval?
Could you let the wanting go?
Repeat the above series of questions several more times, clearing up any remaining sense of wanting approval there is.
Now, let’s dig even deeper. Is there anything about this situation, problem, or issue that stirs up a sense of wanting safety, security, or survival?
Could you just allow yourself to feel the sense of wanting security?
Then, could you let it go?
Focus on the situation again and see if you can find anything about it that makes you feel a little insecure or a little threatened, and notice how that comes from wanting security or survival.
Could you let go of wanting security or survival?
Repeat the above series of questions several more times, clearing up any remaining sense of wanting safety or security there is.
Now, simply tune in and become aware of how you’re feeling inside. Notice that you’re probably feeling a lot more space and lightness. If there’s any sense of wanting to hold on to that good feeling, notice how it comes from wanting to control. Also, realize that there are plenty more good feelings where that came from. Our feelings of limitation are finite, whereas good feelings are infinite.
So, could you let go of wanting to control the good feeling and just let it be?
Now, relax into whatever you’re feeling in the moment. Welcome it fully. Every time we welcome a feeling fully, we’re letting go of wanting to change or control it. We are accepting it as it is, at least for the present moment. If there’s still a remaining sense of contraction or negativity about your issue, switch your focus to the increased lightness that you’re aware of―just for now―and give yourself over to that.
Let it have you as best you can.
Relax into it.
Allow yourself to be at rest.
The natural goodness that you’re feeling inside is always present, no matter how extreme your feelings may become. The goodness resides underneath your emotions and thoughts, and it’s available to you any time you shift your focus in its direction. All the power of your unlimited potential is available to you, and it can naturally dissolve your remaining sense of limitation if you allow it.
Could you allow yourself to let go even more into this present moment and trust the power that knows the way?
Allow yourself, even for this moment, to see the perfection where the seeming imperfection seems to be.
For a moment, could you entertain the idea that maybe all is well and everything is unfolding as it should?
Now, in a moment, gradually start shifting your awareness outwardly again and know that everything you’ve gained from this process is with you forever. Every process is a beginning, an opening to the life that you’ve always wanted, and a discovery of what’s really true for you.
So, allow this to flow easily into your life.
Use this process―and the perspective it offers―as often as you’d like to gain more freedom on a specific issue, or simply to feel happier and more alive.
Chapter 7 - Letting Go of the Four Basic Wants
第7章 - 4つの基礎的な欲求を手放します
As he explored his own process, Lester Levenson spent a good deal of time reviewing his past and letting go of his inner motivations. He discovered that, as people clean up the past relating to the four basic wants, the heavy burdens they’ve been carrying from their personal histories can easily be put down, never
