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he things I embrace, the calls took care of themselves and are producing phenomenal results.”
Written Releasing on Your Likes/Dislikes
On paper, the Likes/Dislikes Process is exactly the same as what we were doing above, except you write down your responses to the questions as a way to monitor yourself. So, get out your releasing journal, and let’s begin. Before you begin, draw a line down the center of the paper, leaving room at the top for your topic. There are eight steps in total.
Step 1: Write your topic at the top of the page. Remember, this could be the name of a person, place, or thing, or a few words that describe a situation from any area in your life where you’d like to experience greater freedom. For example, you might write down the name of a city that you’re considering moving to, such as New York. At the top of the left-hand column, create a label: Likes. At the top of the right-hand column, create a label: Dislikes. Now you’re ready to move on to Step 2.
Step 2: Ask yourself: What do I like about _____ (your topic)? Then write down the first thought or feeling that comes to mind in the left-hand column. Using the same example of New York, you might write down “Excitement,” or “Broadway theater.”
Step 3: Check to see which basic want your like comes from by asking: Is there a sense of wanting approval, control, or security? Once you’ve identified it, write down the want from which the thought or feeling comes using the usual abbreviations: w/a for wanting approval, w/c for wanting to control, and w/s for wanting security.
Step 4: Allow yourself to let go of the underlying want by using either one of the following questions:
• Could I welcome this want fully?
• Could I let go of wanting _____ (whichever want it is)?
Cross out the want as you let it go, then move on to a dislike. Do only one like at a time.
Step 5: Ask yourself: What do I dislike about _____ (your topic)? Then write down the first thought or feeling that comes to mind in the right-hand column. Using the example of New York again, you might write down “Overcrowded,” or “Noisy.”
Step 6: Check to see which basic want your dislike comes from by asking: Is there a sense of wanting approval, control, or security?
Step 7: Allow yourself to let go of the underlying want by using either one of the following questions:
• Could I welcome this want fully?
• Could I let go of wanting (whichever want it is)?
Cross out the want as you let it go, then move on to another like. Do only one dislike at a time.
Likes/Dislikes Process
Step 8: Repeat Steps 2 through 7 many times, alternating between a like and a dislike, then another like and dislike, and so on until you feel a positive shift in attitude towards your topic. You can work on it for as long or as short a time span as you decide. The more you put into the Likes/Dislikes Process, the more you’ll get out of it.
Opening Doors
As you work with the Likes/Dislikes Process, you’ll find that it opens many inner doors that you may not even have realized you once slammed shut. In opening these doors, you will be letting go of the limitations that they’ve trapped inside of you. This will free you to truly enjoy your relationships and your life. I highly encourage you to experiment with this process before you move on to explore the next chapter.
10. Power Decision-making
第10章 - パワー意思決定
At the end of Chapter 8, I promised to teach you two additional techniques that would help you achieve a state of hootlessness. The Advantages/Disadvantages Process is the second of these. It is an excellent tool whose function is to help you uncover areas where you’ve become stuck and subsequently let them go. With just the right amount of focused releasing, you can easily shift these recurring thought patterns, behaviors, and situations. As of today, 26 years after being introduced to the notion, I still use Advantages/Disadvantages worksheets on a regular basis. I even worked on one this morning before I sat down to write. In fact, it’s probably my favorite worksheet.
第8章の終わりに、私は、あなたにあなたがやじのない状態 (hootlessness) のありさまを成し遂げるのに役立つさらに2つの技術を教えると約束しました。
メリット/デメリットプロセス (Advantages/Disadvantages Process) は、これらの第2です。
それは、あなたが動けなくなった地域を見つけて、その後彼らに行かせるのに、機能があなたが役立つことになっている優れたツールです。
集中しリリースすることのまさに正常な量で、あなたはこれらの繰り返されている思案パターン、性質と状況を簡単に移すことができます。
今日現在、概念にもたらされた26年後に、私は定期的にまだメリット/デメリット (Advantages/Disadvantages) ワークシートを使います。
書くために座る前に、私さえある今朝働き続けました。
実際、それは多分私の大好きなワークシートであるでしょう。
Use the Advantages/Disadvantages Process to further your work on a host of different things, including:
• Goals. In addition to working on a goal directly, ask: What advantage is there to me to have this goal? And: What disadvantage is there to me to have this goal?
• Decisions. When an opportunity arises, such as being offered a new job, and you’re not quite sure whether or not to take it, doing advantages and disadvantages will help you get a lot clearer. The process cuts through confusion about career changes, purchases, taking trips, and starting new projects.
• Problems. You can use this to let go of overspending or not saving appropriately. Other problems it would be useful to address include difficulty with particular types of people, leaving things incomplete, or procrastination, to name a few.
• Habits and Tendencies. Not sure why you can’t quit smoking or feel the need to shop all day long Advantages/Disadvantages may reveal hidden attachments and aversions.
• Positives. I find it freeing to do advantages/disadvantages on positive feelings, such as having abundance, more joy, feeling more alive, or recognizing your true nature. These may not necessarily be goals that you’re pursuing right now, although most people would like to experience many of these qualities. When you release on a positive feeling, it always deepens your releasing and cleans out that area―even if you’re already feeling good about it.
I think you can tell I’m pretty enthusiastic about this process, so why don’t we do some work on it together?
Think of an area in your life that would apply to this process: a decision you need to make, a problem you’d like to resolve, or a goal you’d like to fulfill, or any other topic that you’d like to do some in-depth releasing on. If you need inspiration, revisit the work you did in your releasing journal as you were reading the sections “What Do You Want in Your Life?” from Chapter 1 (see page 46) or “Writing Down Your Goals” from Chapter 8 (see page 200).
The Advantiages/Disadvantages Process
This process is similar to the Likes/Dislikes Process we explored in Chapter 9 (see page 217), however it captures the imagination in a slightly different way. After using both, you’ll discover which process works best for which kinds of issues in your life.
Begin by making yourself comfortable and shift your focus within. Bring to mind the topic that you’re going to be releasing on―a goal, a problem, or whatever it is.
What is the advantage to you in it being that way? Remember to accept the first thought or feeling that comes to mind.
Does the advantage come from wanting approval, control, or security?
Whichever want it is: Could you let it go?
What’s the disadvantage to you in your topic being the way it is?
Go a little deeper and see if the disadvantage comes from wanting approval, control, or security.
Could you simply let it go?
Repeat the steps above, shifting between aspects of the topic that are advantageous and aspects that are disadvantageous, and then releasing your NOW feelings and underlying wants. Remember, if you’re having a hard time coming up with new advantages or disadvantages, allow yourself to release on that-and keep going. Be diligent. The deeper you go into this process, the more you’ll get out of it.
Once you’ve done about nine rounds of releasing in total, stop and notice how differently you’re starting to feel about the topic you’ve been releasing on. Each advantage and disadvantage together forms a layer of unconsciousness or limitation on a particular topic, so the process is like drilling for oil. The deeper a stratum you penetrate, the more insights, the more understanding, and the more freedom comes on that particular topic.
“The best part of releasing old issues using the Sedona Method is that it is a one-time event. No other tool or technique I have encountered is so instantly and permanently effective in removing conscious and unconscious barriers to living in comfort, ease, and joy. Since learning and utilizing the Method, I live with less fear, more peace, and from a much deeper, more spiritually connected part of myself. Even amidst the apparent harried and ‘emergency’ situations that I encounter, I am able to remain calm and to approach challenges from a balanced perspective.”―Jeff Goodman, San Jose, CA
Although you may never arrive at a specific big “ah-ha” moment, there is likely to be a series of small ones along the way. If you persistently release on advantages and disadvantages, I’m certain profound changes will occur. I have yet to see it produce a less than positive effect either for myself or for those I’ve assisted in focusing on it.
Laura: Uncovering a Forgotten Decision
Here is a story that shows how significant the Advantages/ Disadvantages Process can be. Many years ago, I met a woman named Laura who had a genuine issue about being overweight. The instructor working individually with her in class was leading Laura through the Advantages/Disadvantages questions, but every time she was asked, “What advantage is there to you in being overweight?” none came to mind. Laura kept responding, “There aren’t any.” She was having absolutely no problem thinking of disadvantages, however. Nonetheless, the instructor was persistent. She had Laura release on her NOW feeling about the fact that she couldn’t think of an advantage.
Finally, around the ninth time she was asked, Laura started getting frustrated and blurted out, “Why are you asking me what advantage there is to being overweight? How could there possibly be an advantage to being as overweight as I am?” She was ready to pick a fight. The instructor calmly asked again, “What advantage is it to you to be overweight?” Suddenly, Laura flashed on a suppressed memory and she started to cry. Twenty years earlier, she’d been an exquisitely beautiful woman, and her body was an ideal weight. While she was hospitalized for a couple of days, her husband took it upon himself to make an investment that he knew his wife wouldn’t approve. He figured he would get away with it by being able to report wonderful rewards afterwards. But it was an irresponsible investment, and it didn’t do well.
Towards the end of Laura’s stay in the hospital, her husband showed up one day and sheepishly said, “Honey, I’m sorry, but I’ve lost our investment money. It’s all gone.” She was so furious in that instant that she had a fleeting thought, “Oh, I know how to get back at him!” Soon after she left the hospital, she went from being the type of woman who turned everyone’s head when she walked into the room to being overweight. In fact, she kept growing more obese and had absolutely no understanding of why it was happening. She had totally forgotten that she’d made a specific decision.
Well, 20 years later, she was still very overweight, even though it had been a long time since she and her husband had divorced. She had tried dieting in the past, but nothing had helped. When she rediscovered her decision to punish her ex-husband, and released her feelings, she let go of a very large hook in her subconscious and the main reason she’d been holding on to being overweight. The very next day after class, she phoned a specialized diet doctor to whom a friend had referred her a year and a half earlier. Now, she immediately began taking actions to lose weight―and those actions finally started to work. About a year later, Laura was a normal weight. Years later, she still maintains it.
Written Releasing on Your Advantages/Disadvantages
On paper, the Advantages/Disadvantages Process is exactly the same as what we were doing above, except you write down your responses to the questions as a way to monitor yourself. So, get out your releasing journal, and let’s begin. There are eight steps in total.
Step 1: Write your topic at the top of the page. Then, draw a line down the middle of the page. At the top of the left-hand column, create a label: Advantages. At the top of the right-hand column, create a label: Disadvantages.
Step 2: Ask yourself: What is the advantage to me of _____ (your topic)? Write down the first thought or feeling that comes to mind in the left-hand column, without any censoring.
Step 3: Check to see which basic want your advantage comes from by asking: Is there a sense of wanting approval, control, or security? Once you’ve identified it, write down the want from which the thought or feeling comes using the usual abbreviations: w/a for wanting approval, w/c for wanting to control, and w/s for wanting security.
Step 4: Allow yourself to let go of the underlying want by using either one of the following questions:
• Could I allow this want to be here?
• Could I let go of wanting _____ (approval, control, or security)?
Cross out the want as you let it go, then move on to a disadvantage. Do only one advantage at a time. Please refrain from the impulse to make a list. However, if more than one advantage or disadvantage spontaneously occur to you at the same time, write them all down, and then release the wants associated with each, one at a time.
Step 5: Ask yourself: What is the disadvantage to me of _____ (your topic)? Write down the first thought or feeling that comes to mind in the right-hand column, without censoring.
Step 6: Check to see which basic want your disadvantage comes from by asking: Is there a sense of wanting approval, control, or security? Write down an abbreviation next to the disadvantage.
Step 7: Allow yourself to let go of the underlying want by using either one of the following questions:
• Could I allow this want to be here?
• Could I let go of wanting _____ (approval, control, or security)?
Advantages/Disadvantages Process
Cross out the want as you let it go. Do only one disadvantage at a time.
Step 8: Repeat Steps 2 through 7 many times, alternating between an advantage and a disadvantage, then another advantage and another disadvantage and so on until you feel complete, or at least ready to take a break for a while.
Carol Su
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he things I embrace, the calls took care of themselves and are producing phenomenal results.”
Written Releasing on Your Likes/Dislikes
On paper, the Likes/Dislikes Process is exactly the same as what we were doing above, except you write down your responses to the questions as a way to monitor yourself. So, get out your releasing journal, and let’s begin. Before you begin, draw a line down the center of the paper, leaving room at the top for your topic. There are eight steps in total.
Step 1: Write your topic at the top of the page. Remember, this could be the name of a person, place, or thing, or a few words that describe a situation from any area in your life where you’d like to experience greater freedom. For example, you might write down the name of a city that you’re considering moving to, such as New York. At the top of the left-hand column, create a label: Likes. At the top of the right-hand column, create a label: Dislikes. Now you’re ready to move on to Step 2.
Step 2: Ask yourself: What do I like about _____ (your topic)? Then write down the first thought or feeling that comes to mind in the left-hand column. Using the same example of New York, you might write down “Excitement,” or “Broadway theater.”
Step 3: Check to see which basic want your like comes from by asking: Is there a sense of wanting approval, control, or security? Once you’ve identified it, write down the want from which the thought or feeling comes using the usual abbreviations: w/a for wanting approval, w/c for wanting to control, and w/s for wanting security.
Step 4: Allow yourself to let go of the underlying want by using either one of the following questions:
• Could I welcome this want fully?
• Could I let go of wanting _____ (whichever want it is)?
Cross out the want as you let it go, then move on to a dislike. Do only one like at a time.
Step 5: Ask yourself: What do I dislike about _____ (your topic)? Then write down the first thought or feeling that comes to mind in the right-hand column. Using the example of New York again, you might write down “Overcrowded,” or “Noisy.”
Step 6: Check to see which basic want your dislike comes from by asking: Is there a sense of wanting approval, control, or security?
Step 7: Allow yourself to let go of the underlying want by using either one of the following questions:
• Could I welcome this want fully?
• Could I let go of wanting (whichever want it is)?
Cross out the want as you let it go, then move on to another like. Do only one dislike at a time.
Likes/Dislikes Process
Step 8: Repeat Steps 2 through 7 many times, alternating between a like and a dislike, then another like and dislike, and so on until you feel a positive shift in attitude towards your topic. You can work on it for as long or as short a time span as you decide. The more you put into the Likes/Dislikes Process, the more you’ll get out of it.
Opening Doors
As you work with the Likes/Dislikes Process, you’ll find that it opens many inner doors that you may not even have realized you once slammed shut. In opening these doors, you will be letting go of the limitations that they’ve trapped inside of you. This will free you to truly enjoy your relationships and your life. I highly encourage you to experiment with this process before you move on to explore the next chapter.
10. Power Decision-making
第10章 - パワー意思決定
At the end of Chapter 8, I promised to teach you two additional techniques that would help you achieve a state of hootlessness. The Advantages/Disadvantages Process is the second of these. It is an excellent tool whose function is to help you uncover areas where you’ve become stuck and subsequently let them go. With just the right amount of focused releasing, you can easily shift these recurring thought patterns, behaviors, and situations. As of today, 26 years after being introduced to the notion, I still use Advantages/Disadvantages worksheets on a regular basis. I even worked on one this morning before I sat down to write. In fact, it’s probably my favorite worksheet.
第8章の終わりに、私は、あなたにあなたがやじのない状態 (hootlessness) のありさまを成し遂げるのに役立つさらに2つの技術を教えると約束しました。
メリット/デメリットプロセス (Advantages/Disadvantages Process) は、これらの第2です。
それは、あなたが動けなくなった地域を見つけて、その後彼らに行かせるのに、機能があなたが役立つことになっている優れたツールです。
集中しリリースすることのまさに正常な量で、あなたはこれらの繰り返されている思案パターン、性質と状況を簡単に移すことができます。
今日現在、概念にもたらされた26年後に、私は定期的にまだメリット/デメリット (Advantages/Disadvantages) ワークシートを使います。
書くために座る前に、私さえある今朝働き続けました。
実際、それは多分私の大好きなワークシートであるでしょう。
Use the Advantages/Disadvantages Process to further your work on a host of different things, including:
• Goals. In addition to working on a goal directly, ask: What advantage is there to me to have this goal? And: What disadvantage is there to me to have this goal?
• Decisions. When an opportunity arises, such as being offered a new job, and you’re not quite sure whether or not to take it, doing advantages and disadvantages will help you get a lot clearer. The process cuts through confusion about career changes, purchases, taking trips, and starting new projects.
• Problems. You can use this to let go of overspending or not saving appropriately. Other problems it would be useful to address include difficulty with particular types of people, leaving things incomplete, or procrastination, to name a few.
• Habits and Tendencies. Not sure why you can’t quit smoking or feel the need to shop all day long Advantages/Disadvantages may reveal hidden attachments and aversions.
• Positives. I find it freeing to do advantages/disadvantages on positive feelings, such as having abundance, more joy, feeling more alive, or recognizing your true nature. These may not necessarily be goals that you’re pursuing right now, although most people would like to experience many of these qualities. When you release on a positive feeling, it always deepens your releasing and cleans out that area―even if you’re already feeling good about it.
I think you can tell I’m pretty enthusiastic about this process, so why don’t we do some work on it together?
Think of an area in your life that would apply to this process: a decision you need to make, a problem you’d like to resolve, or a goal you’d like to fulfill, or any other topic that you’d like to do some in-depth releasing on. If you need inspiration, revisit the work you did in your releasing journal as you were reading the sections “What Do You Want in Your Life?” from Chapter 1 (see page 46) or “Writing Down Your Goals” from Chapter 8 (see page 200).
The Advantiages/Disadvantages Process
This process is similar to the Likes/Dislikes Process we explored in Chapter 9 (see page 217), however it captures the imagination in a slightly different way. After using both, you’ll discover which process works best for which kinds of issues in your life.
Begin by making yourself comfortable and shift your focus within. Bring to mind the topic that you’re going to be releasing on―a goal, a problem, or whatever it is.
What is the advantage to you in it being that way? Remember to accept the first thought or feeling that comes to mind.
Does the advantage come from wanting approval, control, or security?
Whichever want it is: Could you let it go?
What’s the disadvantage to you in your topic being the way it is?
Go a little deeper and see if the disadvantage comes from wanting approval, control, or security.
Could you simply let it go?
Repeat the steps above, shifting between aspects of the topic that are advantageous and aspects that are disadvantageous, and then releasing your NOW feelings and underlying wants. Remember, if you’re having a hard time coming up with new advantages or disadvantages, allow yourself to release on that-and keep going. Be diligent. The deeper you go into this process, the more you’ll get out of it.
Once you’ve done about nine rounds of releasing in total, stop and notice how differently you’re starting to feel about the topic you’ve been releasing on. Each advantage and disadvantage together forms a layer of unconsciousness or limitation on a particular topic, so the process is like drilling for oil. The deeper a stratum you penetrate, the more insights, the more understanding, and the more freedom comes on that particular topic.
“The best part of releasing old issues using the Sedona Method is that it is a one-time event. No other tool or technique I have encountered is so instantly and permanently effective in removing conscious and unconscious barriers to living in comfort, ease, and joy. Since learning and utilizing the Method, I live with less fear, more peace, and from a much deeper, more spiritually connected part of myself. Even amidst the apparent harried and ‘emergency’ situations that I encounter, I am able to remain calm and to approach challenges from a balanced perspective.”―Jeff Goodman, San Jose, CA
Although you may never arrive at a specific big “ah-ha” moment, there is likely to be a series of small ones along the way. If you persistently release on advantages and disadvantages, I’m certain profound changes will occur. I have yet to see it produce a less than positive effect either for myself or for those I’ve assisted in focusing on it.
Laura: Uncovering a Forgotten Decision
Here is a story that shows how significant the Advantages/ Disadvantages Process can be. Many years ago, I met a woman named Laura who had a genuine issue about being overweight. The instructor working individually with her in class was leading Laura through the Advantages/Disadvantages questions, but every time she was asked, “What advantage is there to you in being overweight?” none came to mind. Laura kept responding, “There aren’t any.” She was having absolutely no problem thinking of disadvantages, however. Nonetheless, the instructor was persistent. She had Laura release on her NOW feeling about the fact that she couldn’t think of an advantage.
Finally, around the ninth time she was asked, Laura started getting frustrated and blurted out, “Why are you asking me what advantage there is to being overweight? How could there possibly be an advantage to being as overweight as I am?” She was ready to pick a fight. The instructor calmly asked again, “What advantage is it to you to be overweight?” Suddenly, Laura flashed on a suppressed memory and she started to cry. Twenty years earlier, she’d been an exquisitely beautiful woman, and her body was an ideal weight. While she was hospitalized for a couple of days, her husband took it upon himself to make an investment that he knew his wife wouldn’t approve. He figured he would get away with it by being able to report wonderful rewards afterwards. But it was an irresponsible investment, and it didn’t do well.
Towards the end of Laura’s stay in the hospital, her husband showed up one day and sheepishly said, “Honey, I’m sorry, but I’ve lost our investment money. It’s all gone.” She was so furious in that instant that she had a fleeting thought, “Oh, I know how to get back at him!” Soon after she left the hospital, she went from being the type of woman who turned everyone’s head when she walked into the room to being overweight. In fact, she kept growing more obese and had absolutely no understanding of why it was happening. She had totally forgotten that she’d made a specific decision.
Well, 20 years later, she was still very overweight, even though it had been a long time since she and her husband had divorced. She had tried dieting in the past, but nothing had helped. When she rediscovered her decision to punish her ex-husband, and released her feelings, she let go of a very large hook in her subconscious and the main reason she’d been holding on to being overweight. The very next day after class, she phoned a specialized diet doctor to whom a friend had referred her a year and a half earlier. Now, she immediately began taking actions to lose weight―and those actions finally started to work. About a year later, Laura was a normal weight. Years later, she still maintains it.
Written Releasing on Your Advantages/Disadvantages
On paper, the Advantages/Disadvantages Process is exactly the same as what we were doing above, except you write down your responses to the questions as a way to monitor yourself. So, get out your releasing journal, and let’s begin. There are eight steps in total.
Step 1: Write your topic at the top of the page. Then, draw a line down the middle of the page. At the top of the left-hand column, create a label: Advantages. At the top of the right-hand column, create a label: Disadvantages.
Step 2: Ask yourself: What is the advantage to me of _____ (your topic)? Write down the first thought or feeling that comes to mind in the left-hand column, without any censoring.
Step 3: Check to see which basic want your advantage comes from by asking: Is there a sense of wanting approval, control, or security? Once you’ve identified it, write down the want from which the thought or feeling comes using the usual abbreviations: w/a for wanting approval, w/c for wanting to control, and w/s for wanting security.
Step 4: Allow yourself to let go of the underlying want by using either one of the following questions:
• Could I allow this want to be here?
• Could I let go of wanting _____ (approval, control, or security)?
Cross out the want as you let it go, then move on to a disadvantage. Do only one advantage at a time. Please refrain from the impulse to make a list. However, if more than one advantage or disadvantage spontaneously occur to you at the same time, write them all down, and then release the wants associated with each, one at a time.
Step 5: Ask yourself: What is the disadvantage to me of _____ (your topic)? Write down the first thought or feeling that comes to mind in the right-hand column, without censoring.
Step 6: Check to see which basic want your disadvantage comes from by asking: Is there a sense of wanting approval, control, or security? Write down an abbreviation next to the disadvantage.
Step 7: Allow yourself to let go of the underlying want by using either one of the following questions:
• Could I allow this want to be here?
• Could I let go of wanting _____ (approval, control, or security)?
Advantages/Disadvantages Process
Cross out the want as you let it go. Do only one disadvantage at a time.
Step 8: Repeat Steps 2 through 7 many times, alternating between an advantage and a disadvantage, then another advantage and another disadvantage and so on until you feel complete, or at least ready to take a break for a while.
Carol Su
