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e: Creating an Amicable Divorce
According to Carol Sue, when she told her ex-husband that she wanted a divorce, he got very angry and began screaming at her. She spent the next day releasing her feelings about their relationship, using the Cleanup Procedure―which will be covered in Chapter 11―and other techniques. But the Advantages/Disadvantages Process really helped her navigate her divorce smoothly and rapidly without barely making a dent in her finances. After doing advantages and disadvantages on the topic of lawyers, she went for a consultation. Her husband came with her. The lawyer wanted to charge them $7,000. The disadvantages of lawyers included time consumption and expense. Because Carol Sue had released, she and her husband were able to speak calmly together, and they decided to hire a paralegal who had the divorce papers finished in only a day and charged only a few hundred dollars.
Even though Carol Sue calls herself materialistic, she did-n’ t try to hang on to anything in the divorce. In her words: “It worked out perfectly. Originally, I was divorcing my husband, but after doing the Advantages/Disadvantages Process, I allowed him to legally divorce me. If I had divorced him I would have had to stay in the house for 30 more days. But I wanted to leave right away. That was an advantage. Now, this may sound like a disadvantage, but to me it was an advantage―I allowed him to keep everything: the car, the house, and the furniture. I took what I wanted when I left. It’s a huge advantage to me to be free. I don’t even need an apartment, since I am traveling and staying with friends and relatives now. My stuff is stored at my daughter’s house. Letting go of things was a major advantage.”
Persistence Pays Off
Whatever comes up first is going to be the obvious. But if you’re willing to be persistent, you’ll strike oil by making a profound shift in your awareness. Sometimes I’ve worked for days on the same Advantages/Disadvantages worksheet, returning to it until I knew it was complete, and gaining tremendous insights and benefits. Before you proceed to the next chapter, I highly recommend that you explore at least one Advantages/Disadvantages worksheet on your own. I promise, you’ll be glad you did.
See the list below for just a few topic ideas.
What Are the Advantages/Disadvantages of ... ?
• Abundance
• Poverty/Debt
• This Decision
• Calmness
• Stress
• Joy
• Sorrow
• Fear
• Exercise
• Smoking
• Drinking
• Overeating
• Freedom
• Illness
• Health
• Marriage/Partnership
• Being Single
• Work
• Play/Leisure
• Being Unemployed
• Giving
• Receiving
Chapter 11 - The Cleanup Procedure
第11章 - クリーンアップ手順 (クリーンアップ プロシージャ)
Lester Levenson originally created the Cleanup Procedure for the exclusive use of the Sedona Method instructors, because he understood how critically important it was for them to let go of wanting approval, control, or security, as well as any reactions they might have to participants in their classes. Our instructors are trained to be 100 percent supportive. Even though I didn’t become an actual instructor until several years later, I’ve been using this process since 1977; it’s another of my favorite applications of the Method. You can use it to complete an interaction―positive or negative―with anyone, including yourself.
承認か、支配か保安（彼らがクラスの参加者に持つかもしれない反応だけでなく）を望むことを彼らが放すことがどれくらいきわめて重要かについて彼が理解したので、レスター・レヴェンソンは当初Sedona Methodインストラクターの専用のためにクリナップProcedureをつくりました。
我々のインストラクターは、100パーセント支えとなるために訓練されます。
たとえ後で数年までの実際のインストラクターにならなかったとしても、私は1977年以降このプロセスを使用していました;
それは、Methodの私の大好きなアプリケーションのもう一つです。
自分自身を含む誰とでもinteraction―良い面またはnegative―を完了するために、あなたはそれを使うことができます。
(承認か、支配か保安（彼らがクラスの参加者に持つかもしれない反応だけでなく）を望むことを彼らが放すことがどれくらいきわめて重要かについて彼が理解したので、レスター・レバンソンはsedona方法インストラクターの専用のクリナップ手続きを当初作成しました。
我々のインストラクターは、100パーセント支えとなるために訓練されます。
たとえ後で数年までの実際のインストラクターにならなかったとしても、私は1977年以降このプロセスを使用していました;
それは、方法の私の大好きなアプリケーションのもう一つです。
インタラクションを完了するには、それをご利用ください。 ― ポジティブであるか否定的な ― 誰とでも、自分自身を含みます。)
Now, why would you release on positive interactions? You might want to feel even better than you already do about the person you’re using as the object of this process, so you can relate to that individual with more openness, honesty, and love. We all have people in our lives with whom we repeatedly interact―our husbands, wives, or lovers, our children or business associates―all sorts of people. I am sure you don’t want to carry excess baggage you’ve picked up from a previous encounter with any of these people into your next and future encounters with them.
現在、なぜ、あなたは良い面の上でインタラクションをリリースするでしょうか？
あなたはこのプロセスの対象として利用している人についてすでにするよりさらに気分がよくしたいかもしれないので、あなたはより多くの開放性、正直と愛でその個人に馴染むことができます。
みんなには、我々が繰り返し交流する我々の一生で、人々がいます ― 我々の夫、妻または恋人たち（我々の子供たちまたは仕事仲間） ― いろいろな人々。
あなたが彼らとの次で将来の出会いにこれらの人々の誰との前の出会いからも拾った過剰な手荷物を所持したくないと、私は確信します。
The Cleanup Procedure is designed to accelerate your gains from the Sedona Method. It is made up of a series of questions that can be asked before, during, or after meetings, gatherings, and random interactions―especially those with difficult people.
クリナップ手順は、sedona方法からのあなたの利益を速めるようになっています。
会議、集会とランダムなインタラクションの前に、それの間、または、それの後されることができる一連の質問から、それは成り立ちます ― 特に難しい人々と一緒のそれら。
“Since we learned the Sedona Method, there is even greater harmony and better communication between my husband and myself. Our future looks rosier. I am also dealing with several extremely difficult situations with work and family with greater ease. I no longer become severely depressed, and my downs are less frequent and much less severe. My husband is happier, and he is doing better financially.”―Carolyn Graham, Brick, NJ
As you work with the cleanup questions on a regular basis, you’ll begin to understand how much they can help you improve your relationships, communicate more effectively, resolve conflicts, and incorporate letting go into your life more easily. The process will also increase your effectiveness and contribute to the integrity of all of your interactions.
定期的にクリーンアップ問題で働いて、あなたは彼らがどんなにあなたがあなたの関係を改善するのを手伝うことができるか理解し始めて、より効果的に情報交換して、紛争を解決して、より簡単に人生に放すことを取り入れます。
プロセスは、あなたの効果も増やして、あなたのインタラクションの全ての完全性にも貢献します。
The Cleanup Procedure has a special place in my heart, because it helped me break through to truly experiencing my emotions. When I first started using the Sedona Method, I was a “from-the-neck-up releaser,” meaning that I was letting go of more thoughts than feelings. Although the Method was making a huge impact on my life and on me personally, I knew I could go deeper. It was while doing the Cleanup Procedure on my relationship with my mother that I finally became able to feel all the way down to my toes.
それが私が私の感情を本当に経験することに突破するのを援助したので、クリナップ手順は私の心臓で特別な場所を持ちます。
初めてsedona方法を使用し始めたとき、私は「首から上に向かうレリーサー」でした。そして、私が感情より多くの考えを捨てていたことを意味しました。
方法が個人的に私の人生の、そして、私の巨大な衝突を作っていたが、私はより深くなることができるということを知っていました。
母との私の関係に関してクリナップ手順をしている間、私はようやく、つま先までずっと感じることができるようになりました。
While I was growing up―partially due to my relationship with my mother―I went from being a sensitive, tuned-in young child to a teenager very out of touch with my emotions. My mother was in psychoanalysis for over ten years, and she always used to bring home her latest insights, which she would use to try to fix me. In order to opt out of this way of relating, I trained myself over time not to be in touch with my feelings.
私が育つ間、 ― 部分的に母との私の関係のために ― 敏感な、音量を下げられた幼児であることから感情とは非常に音信不通のティーンエイジャーへ、私は行きました。
母は10年以上の間精神分析中でした、そして、彼女は常に家に最新の洞察をもたらしたものです。そして、それを彼女は私を固定しようとするために使います。
関連があるこの方法から身を引くために、私は時間とともに自分自身を私の感情と接触しないために訓練しました。
Using the Cleanup Procedure, as I released on my mother, I felt as though a wall had melted in my heart, allowing a warm, loving energy to flow throughout my whole body. Ever since then, I’ve been able to feel and know my feelings fully. My relationship with my mother now, as I write this book, is excellent. We both use the Method, and it has helped us to become friends as opposed to estranged mother and son.
クリナップ手順を使用して、母の上でリリースしたので、まるで壁が私の心臓に溶けたように、私は感じました。そして、暖かい、愛するエネルギーを私の全身を通して流れさせました。
これまでにそれ以来、私は、完全に感情を感じて、知っていることができました。
私がこの本を書いて、母との私の関係は現在素晴らしいです。
我々二人は方法を使用します、そして、それは我々が別居中の母と息子と対比しての友人になるのを援助しました。
When you begin to use the Cleanup Procedure, you will find that it has an almost magical ability to help you shed whatever unresolved feelings you’re carrying from an interaction you just had with another person. Perhaps you just spoke to a friend on the phone or went out to a movie on a date. Or perhaps you were speaking with your husband, wife, son, or daughter, and you still feel bothered or incomplete about your discussion. Maybe you finished a confrontational business meeting or had a conflict with a bank teller or supermarket cashier. This incredibly simple releasing process will help you let go of whatever just happened, so you can move forward with your life without dragging around so much extra mental and emotional weight.
クリナップ手順を使用し始めるとき、ちょうどもう一人の人とあったインタラクションから、もたらしているどんな未解決の感情でも放棄するのをあなたが援助するほとんど不思議な能力が、それにはあると、あなたはわかります。
おそらく、あなたはちょうど電話で友人と話したか、日付に映画に出かけました。
または、おそらく、あなたは夫、妻、息子または娘と話していました、そして、あなたはまだ悩まされるか議論について不完全であると感じます。
多分、あなたは対決的な業務会議を終えただろうか、銀行出納係またはスーパーマーケット・キャッシャーと対立をしたでしょう。
この信じられないほど単純なリリースしているプロセスはあなたがいったい何がちょうどあったかについて放すのに役立つので、非常に余分の精神的で感情的な重さのまわりで引きずられることなく、あなたは人生とともに前進することができます。
The Cleanup Procedure can bring you peace of mind even about people who are no longer alive. You can clean up on past relatives or past relationships, on people you may be separated from but for whom you still carry around a lot of feelings.
クリナップ手順は、もはや生きていない人々についてさえ、あなたに心の平和をもたらすことができます。
あなたが切り離されるかもしれない、しかし、あなたがまだ多くの感情を持ち歩く人々の上で、あなたは前の親類または過去の関係をかたづけることができます。
As I mentioned in the Introduction, for part of my history I sold real estate. I would always use this process before and after meeting with clients. If I’d previously met with a client, whether or not that meeting ended favorably, I’d often use the Cleanup Procedure before seeing them again in order to insure even greater success. My clients often commented that I was-n’ t like other real estate salespeople with whom they’d dealt. That it was much easier to work with a broker who was relaxed and friendly, yet still got the job done.
導入において言ったように、私の歴史の一部のために、私は不動産を売りました。
私は、依頼人に会うことの前後に、常にこのプロセスを使用します。
以前依頼人に会ったならば、その会議が有利に終わったか否かを問わず、さらにより大きな成功に保険をかけるために再び彼らに会う前に、私はクリナップ手順をしばしば使用するでしょう。
私が彼らがカードを配った他の不動産販売員らしくないと、私のクライアントは、しばしばコメントしました。
それが非常により簡単だったために、リラックスしていて親しみやすかったブローカーと働くが、静まることは仕事をさせました。
You can do the Cleanup Procedure in the car. You can do it walking down the street. You can do it between phone calls at the office. You can do it sitting quietly by yourself. You can do it while you work out at the gym. You can use it in any situation where there is human interaction that you’d like to feel better about.
あなたは、車でクリナップ手順をすることができます。
あなたは、通りを歩いて来て、それをすることができます。
あなたは、オフィスで電話の間でそれをすることができます。
あなたは、一人で静かに座って、それをすることができます。
ジムでトレーニングする間、あなたはそれをすることができます。
気分が前より良くしたいと思う人間のインタラクションがあるどんな状況ででも、あなたはそれを使うことができます。
Here’s how.
The Cleanup Procedure
The Cleanup Procedure is composed of three groups of questions, each focusing on a separate want: first control, then approval, and finally security/survival. Follow these basic steps and guidelines as you work:
1. Begin by visualizing the face of the person you have chosen to release about. (Remember, this may also be an auditory or kinesthetic experience for you.)
2. Then, ask yourself one cleanup question at a time and allow your underlying wants to surface. Often, the first question in each set will be enough to cause you spontaneously to let go of the want you are focusing on at that moment. Welcome the want fully or let it go.
3. Start with the set of cleanup questions about control, and stay with that set of questions until you feel that you can “grant that person the right to be” the way he or she is. Most times, completely letting go is just a decision. If you are open to it, it’s possible to reach this point very quickly, but feel free to take all the time you need.
4. Repeatedly ask the first two cleanup questions in each subsequent set, and keep releasing whatever is stirred up until you can honestly answer “yes” to the third question. Being honest produces better results. The third question in each set is designed to help you see if you are fully released on that particular want about that individual.
5. Do the same thing with each set of cleanup questions in order. You will know that you’re fully released on a person when you can see his or her face and have only acceptance/love for him or her.
The Cleanup Questions
The questions in bold type are the standard cleanup questions. The questions in italics are suggestions to facilitate letting go of each want. Feel free to release the wants without the use of any additional questions, or to come up with questions of your own.
Step 1: Control
1. Did this person try to control you? (Or did it feel that way?)
Pause to allow for spontaneous releases, or ask one of the following questions.
• If so, could you let go now of wanting to control them back?
• If so, could you let go of resisting them?
• If so, would you like to change that?
2. Did you try to control this person? (Or did it feel that way?)
Pause to allow for spontaneous releases, or ask the following questions.
• If so, could you let go now of wanting to control them?
• If so, would you like to change that?
3. Do you now grant this person the right to be as this person is?
Remember that the third question is simply a decision.
Repeat the three control questions above until you grant this person the right to be as this person is.
Step 2: Approval
1. Did you dislike or disapprove of anything in this person ? (Or did it feel that way?)
Pause to allow for spontaneous releases, or ask the following questions.
• Could you let go, just for now, of your dislike or disapproval for this person?
• If so, would you like to change that?
2. Did this person dislike or disapprove of anything in you?(Or did it feel that way?)
Pause to allow for spontaneous releases, or ask the following questions.
• Could you let go of wanting their approval?
• If so, would you like to change that?
3. Do you have only love/acceptance feelings for this person?
Remember, the third question is just a decision.
Repeat the three approval questions above until you feel only love/acceptance.
Step 3: Security/Survival
1. Did this person challenge, oppose, or threaten you? (Or did it feel that way?)
Pause to allow for spontaneous releases, or ask one of the following questions.
• Could you let go of wanting to challenge, oppose, or threaten himlher back?
• Could you let go of wanting security with this person?
• If so, would you like to change that?
2. Did you challenge, oppose, or threaten this person? (Or did it feel that way?)
Pause to allow for spontaneous releases, or ask one of the following questions.
• Could you let go of wanting to challenge, oppose, or threaten this person?
• Could you let go of wanting to protect yourself in this way?
• If so, would you like to change that?
3. Do you have only a feeling of well-being, safety, and trust with this person?
Remember, the third question is just a decision.
Repeat the three security questions above until you have only a feeling of well-being, safety, and trust with the person you’re releasing about.
When you’ve finished Steps 1 to 3, visualize the face of the person you are working on again (or hear them, or feel them) and allow yourself to bask in your feeling of acceptance/love for him or her. If there are any other feelings than love/acceptance, go back to the cleanup questions.
Why Does Completion Benefit You?
Many people struggle inside themselves to reach a genuine “yes” on the third question in each set, even though they know it will produce a profound shift in their consciousness. They may see how granting people the right to be the way they are is important, even after they’ve had some difficulty with them. They may even be able to love and accept people after a conflict. But they may still find it hard to imagine having only a feeling of well-being, safety, and trust with certain people.
What if the person you were releasing about was someone who just tried to cheat you in business? Why would you want to feel trusting towards him or her? Very simple: when you feel distrust, you’re holding in mind that someone is going to cheat you. Remember, whatever you focus your attention on gets created
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e: Creating an Amicable Divorce
According to Carol Sue, when she told her ex-husband that she wanted a divorce, he got very angry and began screaming at her. She spent the next day releasing her feelings about their relationship, using the Cleanup Procedure―which will be covered in Chapter 11―and other techniques. But the Advantages/Disadvantages Process really helped her navigate her divorce smoothly and rapidly without barely making a dent in her finances. After doing advantages and disadvantages on the topic of lawyers, she went for a consultation. Her husband came with her. The lawyer wanted to charge them $7,000. The disadvantages of lawyers included time consumption and expense. Because Carol Sue had released, she and her husband were able to speak calmly together, and they decided to hire a paralegal who had the divorce papers finished in only a day and charged only a few hundred dollars.
Even though Carol Sue calls herself materialistic, she did-n’ t try to hang on to anything in the divorce. In her words: “It worked out perfectly. Originally, I was divorcing my husband, but after doing the Advantages/Disadvantages Process, I allowed him to legally divorce me. If I had divorced him I would have had to stay in the house for 30 more days. But I wanted to leave right away. That was an advantage. Now, this may sound like a disadvantage, but to me it was an advantage―I allowed him to keep everything: the car, the house, and the furniture. I took what I wanted when I left. It’s a huge advantage to me to be free. I don’t even need an apartment, since I am traveling and staying with friends and relatives now. My stuff is stored at my daughter’s house. Letting go of things was a major advantage.”
Persistence Pays Off
Whatever comes up first is going to be the obvious. But if you’re willing to be persistent, you’ll strike oil by making a profound shift in your awareness. Sometimes I’ve worked for days on the same Advantages/Disadvantages worksheet, returning to it until I knew it was complete, and gaining tremendous insights and benefits. Before you proceed to the next chapter, I highly recommend that you explore at least one Advantages/Disadvantages worksheet on your own. I promise, you’ll be glad you did.
See the list below for just a few topic ideas.
What Are the Advantages/Disadvantages of ... ?
• Abundance
• Poverty/Debt
• This Decision
• Calmness
• Stress
• Joy
• Sorrow
• Fear
• Exercise
• Smoking
• Drinking
• Overeating
• Freedom
• Illness
• Health
• Marriage/Partnership
• Being Single
• Work
• Play/Leisure
• Being Unemployed
• Giving
• Receiving
Chapter 11 - The Cleanup Procedure
第11章 - クリーンアップ手順 (クリーンアップ プロシージャ)
Lester Levenson originally created the Cleanup Procedure for the exclusive use of the Sedona Method instructors, because he understood how critically important it was for them to let go of wanting approval, control, or security, as well as any reactions they might have to participants in their classes. Our instructors are trained to be 100 percent supportive. Even though I didn’t become an actual instructor until several years later, I’ve been using this process since 1977; it’s another of my favorite applications of the Method. You can use it to complete an interaction―positive or negative―with anyone, including yourself.
承認か、支配か保安（彼らがクラスの参加者に持つかもしれない反応だけでなく）を望むことを彼らが放すことがどれくらいきわめて重要かについて彼が理解したので、レスター・レヴェンソンは当初Sedona Methodインストラクターの専用のためにクリナップProcedureをつくりました。
我々のインストラクターは、100パーセント支えとなるために訓練されます。
たとえ後で数年までの実際のインストラクターにならなかったとしても、私は1977年以降このプロセスを使用していました;
それは、Methodの私の大好きなアプリケーションのもう一つです。
自分自身を含む誰とでもinteraction―良い面またはnegative―を完了するために、あなたはそれを使うことができます。
(承認か、支配か保安（彼らがクラスの参加者に持つかもしれない反応だけでなく）を望むことを彼らが放すことがどれくらいきわめて重要かについて彼が理解したので、レスター・レバンソンはsedona方法インストラクターの専用のクリナップ手続きを当初作成しました。
我々のインストラクターは、100パーセント支えとなるために訓練されます。
たとえ後で数年までの実際のインストラクターにならなかったとしても、私は1977年以降このプロセスを使用していました;
それは、方法の私の大好きなアプリケーションのもう一つです。
インタラクションを完了するには、それをご利用ください。 ― ポジティブであるか否定的な ― 誰とでも、自分自身を含みます。)
Now, why would you release on positive interactions? You might want to feel even better than you already do about the person you’re using as the object of this process, so you can relate to that individual with more openness, honesty, and love. We all have people in our lives with whom we repeatedly interact―our husbands, wives, or lovers, our children or business associates―all sorts of people. I am sure you don’t want to carry excess baggage you’ve picked up from a previous encounter with any of these people into your next and future encounters with them.
現在、なぜ、あなたは良い面の上でインタラクションをリリースするでしょうか？
あなたはこのプロセスの対象として利用している人についてすでにするよりさらに気分がよくしたいかもしれないので、あなたはより多くの開放性、正直と愛でその個人に馴染むことができます。
みんなには、我々が繰り返し交流する我々の一生で、人々がいます ― 我々の夫、妻または恋人たち（我々の子供たちまたは仕事仲間） ― いろいろな人々。
あなたが彼らとの次で将来の出会いにこれらの人々の誰との前の出会いからも拾った過剰な手荷物を所持したくないと、私は確信します。
The Cleanup Procedure is designed to accelerate your gains from the Sedona Method. It is made up of a series of questions that can be asked before, during, or after meetings, gatherings, and random interactions―especially those with difficult people.
クリナップ手順は、sedona方法からのあなたの利益を速めるようになっています。
会議、集会とランダムなインタラクションの前に、それの間、または、それの後されることができる一連の質問から、それは成り立ちます ― 特に難しい人々と一緒のそれら。
“Since we learned the Sedona Method, there is even greater harmony and better communication between my husband and myself. Our future looks rosier. I am also dealing with several extremely difficult situations with work and family with greater ease. I no longer become severely depressed, and my downs are less frequent and much less severe. My husband is happier, and he is doing better financially.”―Carolyn Graham, Brick, NJ
As you work with the cleanup questions on a regular basis, you’ll begin to understand how much they can help you improve your relationships, communicate more effectively, resolve conflicts, and incorporate letting go into your life more easily. The process will also increase your effectiveness and contribute to the integrity of all of your interactions.
定期的にクリーンアップ問題で働いて、あなたは彼らがどんなにあなたがあなたの関係を改善するのを手伝うことができるか理解し始めて、より効果的に情報交換して、紛争を解決して、より簡単に人生に放すことを取り入れます。
プロセスは、あなたの効果も増やして、あなたのインタラクションの全ての完全性にも貢献します。
The Cleanup Procedure has a special place in my heart, because it helped me break through to truly experiencing my emotions. When I first started using the Sedona Method, I was a “from-the-neck-up releaser,” meaning that I was letting go of more thoughts than feelings. Although the Method was making a huge impact on my life and on me personally, I knew I could go deeper. It was while doing the Cleanup Procedure on my relationship with my mother that I finally became able to feel all the way down to my toes.
それが私が私の感情を本当に経験することに突破するのを援助したので、クリナップ手順は私の心臓で特別な場所を持ちます。
初めてsedona方法を使用し始めたとき、私は「首から上に向かうレリーサー」でした。そして、私が感情より多くの考えを捨てていたことを意味しました。
方法が個人的に私の人生の、そして、私の巨大な衝突を作っていたが、私はより深くなることができるということを知っていました。
母との私の関係に関してクリナップ手順をしている間、私はようやく、つま先までずっと感じることができるようになりました。
While I was growing up―partially due to my relationship with my mother―I went from being a sensitive, tuned-in young child to a teenager very out of touch with my emotions. My mother was in psychoanalysis for over ten years, and she always used to bring home her latest insights, which she would use to try to fix me. In order to opt out of this way of relating, I trained myself over time not to be in touch with my feelings.
私が育つ間、 ― 部分的に母との私の関係のために ― 敏感な、音量を下げられた幼児であることから感情とは非常に音信不通のティーンエイジャーへ、私は行きました。
母は10年以上の間精神分析中でした、そして、彼女は常に家に最新の洞察をもたらしたものです。そして、それを彼女は私を固定しようとするために使います。
関連があるこの方法から身を引くために、私は時間とともに自分自身を私の感情と接触しないために訓練しました。
Using the Cleanup Procedure, as I released on my mother, I felt as though a wall had melted in my heart, allowing a warm, loving energy to flow throughout my whole body. Ever since then, I’ve been able to feel and know my feelings fully. My relationship with my mother now, as I write this book, is excellent. We both use the Method, and it has helped us to become friends as opposed to estranged mother and son.
クリナップ手順を使用して、母の上でリリースしたので、まるで壁が私の心臓に溶けたように、私は感じました。そして、暖かい、愛するエネルギーを私の全身を通して流れさせました。
これまでにそれ以来、私は、完全に感情を感じて、知っていることができました。
私がこの本を書いて、母との私の関係は現在素晴らしいです。
我々二人は方法を使用します、そして、それは我々が別居中の母と息子と対比しての友人になるのを援助しました。
When you begin to use the Cleanup Procedure, you will find that it has an almost magical ability to help you shed whatever unresolved feelings you’re carrying from an interaction you just had with another person. Perhaps you just spoke to a friend on the phone or went out to a movie on a date. Or perhaps you were speaking with your husband, wife, son, or daughter, and you still feel bothered or incomplete about your discussion. Maybe you finished a confrontational business meeting or had a conflict with a bank teller or supermarket cashier. This incredibly simple releasing process will help you let go of whatever just happened, so you can move forward with your life without dragging around so much extra mental and emotional weight.
クリナップ手順を使用し始めるとき、ちょうどもう一人の人とあったインタラクションから、もたらしているどんな未解決の感情でも放棄するのをあなたが援助するほとんど不思議な能力が、それにはあると、あなたはわかります。
おそらく、あなたはちょうど電話で友人と話したか、日付に映画に出かけました。
または、おそらく、あなたは夫、妻、息子または娘と話していました、そして、あなたはまだ悩まされるか議論について不完全であると感じます。
多分、あなたは対決的な業務会議を終えただろうか、銀行出納係またはスーパーマーケット・キャッシャーと対立をしたでしょう。
この信じられないほど単純なリリースしているプロセスはあなたがいったい何がちょうどあったかについて放すのに役立つので、非常に余分の精神的で感情的な重さのまわりで引きずられることなく、あなたは人生とともに前進することができます。
The Cleanup Procedure can bring you peace of mind even about people who are no longer alive. You can clean up on past relatives or past relationships, on people you may be separated from but for whom you still carry around a lot of feelings.
クリナップ手順は、もはや生きていない人々についてさえ、あなたに心の平和をもたらすことができます。
あなたが切り離されるかもしれない、しかし、あなたがまだ多くの感情を持ち歩く人々の上で、あなたは前の親類または過去の関係をかたづけることができます。
As I mentioned in the Introduction, for part of my history I sold real estate. I would always use this process before and after meeting with clients. If I’d previously met with a client, whether or not that meeting ended favorably, I’d often use the Cleanup Procedure before seeing them again in order to insure even greater success. My clients often commented that I was-n’ t like other real estate salespeople with whom they’d dealt. That it was much easier to work with a broker who was relaxed and friendly, yet still got the job done.
導入において言ったように、私の歴史の一部のために、私は不動産を売りました。
私は、依頼人に会うことの前後に、常にこのプロセスを使用します。
以前依頼人に会ったならば、その会議が有利に終わったか否かを問わず、さらにより大きな成功に保険をかけるために再び彼らに会う前に、私はクリナップ手順をしばしば使用するでしょう。
私が彼らがカードを配った他の不動産販売員らしくないと、私のクライアントは、しばしばコメントしました。
それが非常により簡単だったために、リラックスしていて親しみやすかったブローカーと働くが、静まることは仕事をさせました。
You can do the Cleanup Procedure in the car. You can do it walking down the street. You can do it between phone calls at the office. You can do it sitting quietly by yourself. You can do it while you work out at the gym. You can use it in any situation where there is human interaction that you’d like to feel better about.
あなたは、車でクリナップ手順をすることができます。
あなたは、通りを歩いて来て、それをすることができます。
あなたは、オフィスで電話の間でそれをすることができます。
あなたは、一人で静かに座って、それをすることができます。
ジムでトレーニングする間、あなたはそれをすることができます。
気分が前より良くしたいと思う人間のインタラクションがあるどんな状況ででも、あなたはそれを使うことができます。
Here’s how.
The Cleanup Procedure
The Cleanup Procedure is composed of three groups of questions, each focusing on a separate want: first control, then approval, and finally security/survival. Follow these basic steps and guidelines as you work:
1. Begin by visualizing the face of the person you have chosen to release about. (Remember, this may also be an auditory or kinesthetic experience for you.)
2. Then, ask yourself one cleanup question at a time and allow your underlying wants to surface. Often, the first question in each set will be enough to cause you spontaneously to let go of the want you are focusing on at that moment. Welcome the want fully or let it go.
3. Start with the set of cleanup questions about control, and stay with that set of questions until you feel that you can “grant that person the right to be” the way he or she is. Most times, completely letting go is just a decision. If you are open to it, it’s possible to reach this point very quickly, but feel free to take all the time you need.
4. Repeatedly ask the first two cleanup questions in each subsequent set, and keep releasing whatever is stirred up until you can honestly answer “yes” to the third question. Being honest produces better results. The third question in each set is designed to help you see if you are fully released on that particular want about that individual.
5. Do the same thing with each set of cleanup questions in order. You will know that you’re fully released on a person when you can see his or her face and have only acceptance/love for him or her.
The Cleanup Questions
The questions in bold type are the standard cleanup questions. The questions in italics are suggestions to facilitate letting go of each want. Feel free to release the wants without the use of any additional questions, or to come up with questions of your own.
Step 1: Control
1. Did this person try to control you? (Or did it feel that way?)
Pause to allow for spontaneous releases, or ask one of the following questions.
• If so, could you let go now of wanting to control them back?
• If so, could you let go of resisting them?
• If so, would you like to change that?
2. Did you try to control this person? (Or did it feel that way?)
Pause to allow for spontaneous releases, or ask the following questions.
• If so, could you let go now of wanting to control them?
• If so, would you like to change that?
3. Do you now grant this person the right to be as this person is?
Remember that the third question is simply a decision.
Repeat the three control questions above until you grant this person the right to be as this person is.
Step 2: Approval
1. Did you dislike or disapprove of anything in this person ? (Or did it feel that way?)
Pause to allow for spontaneous releases, or ask the following questions.
• Could you let go, just for now, of your dislike or disapproval for this person?
• If so, would you like to change that?
2. Did this person dislike or disapprove of anything in you?(Or did it feel that way?)
Pause to allow for spontaneous releases, or ask the following questions.
• Could you let go of wanting their approval?
• If so, would you like to change that?
3. Do you have only love/acceptance feelings for this person?
Remember, the third question is just a decision.
Repeat the three approval questions above until you feel only love/acceptance.
Step 3: Security/Survival
1. Did this person challenge, oppose, or threaten you? (Or did it feel that way?)
Pause to allow for spontaneous releases, or ask one of the following questions.
• Could you let go of wanting to challenge, oppose, or threaten himlher back?
• Could you let go of wanting security with this person?
• If so, would you like to change that?
2. Did you challenge, oppose, or threaten this person? (Or did it feel that way?)
Pause to allow for spontaneous releases, or ask one of the following questions.
• Could you let go of wanting to challenge, oppose, or threaten this person?
• Could you let go of wanting to protect yourself in this way?
• If so, would you like to change that?
3. Do you have only a feeling of well-being, safety, and trust with this person?
Remember, the third question is just a decision.
Repeat the three security questions above until you have only a feeling of well-being, safety, and trust with the person you’re releasing about.
When you’ve finished Steps 1 to 3, visualize the face of the person you are working on again (or hear them, or feel them) and allow yourself to bask in your feeling of acceptance/love for him or her. If there are any other feelings than love/acceptance, go back to the cleanup questions.
Why Does Completion Benefit You?
Many people struggle inside themselves to reach a genuine “yes” on the third question in each set, even though they know it will produce a profound shift in their consciousness. They may see how granting people the right to be the way they are is important, even after they’ve had some difficulty with them. They may even be able to love and accept people after a conflict. But they may still find it hard to imagine having only a feeling of well-being, safety, and trust with certain people.
What if the person you were releasing about was someone who just tried to cheat you in business? Why would you want to feel trusting towards him or her? Very simple: when you feel distrust, you’re holding in mind that someone is going to cheat you. Remember, whatever you focus your attention on gets created
