自分の不思議、他人の不思議に触れながら、熱い想いを掛けられる人が増えてくるように思う。
熱い想いを掛けられる人には、無防備で接することができるのかなと思う。熱い想いが湧かない人へは、無防備はなかなか難しい。熱い想いは、微かでも良いが人を好きにならなければ、湧くものでないようだ。
嫌いな人を、好きになることは、無防備になることとも関係する。
今日たまたま、テレビを見ていたら、米国にあるチベット語放送局のことが放送されていた。正確な報道を心がけるラジオ局。その主たる情報源は、ラサ等の中国におられるチベット人からの通報だという。それが、最近通報者が減少しているということであった。
自分の身を大切にする人が増えてきたことを責めるわけにはいかないが、困難な状況で「無防備」にも、通報する人がまだいるということに驚く。恐らく、そこには熱い想いがあるのだろう。
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I recently had the opportunity to read Gilbert's Stumbling on
Happiness. It is really fantastic and offers a very powerful. but non-
obvious, framework for considering the pursuit of happiness. You might enjoy this video of his talk at TED:
http://www.ted.com/index.php/talks/view/id/97
FROM TED:
Psychologist Dan Gilbert challenges the idea that we'll be miserable
if we don't get what we want. Our "psychological immune system" lets
us feel real, enduring happiness, he says, even when things don't go
as planned. He calls this kind of happiness "synthetic happiness," and
he says it's "every bit as real and enduring as the kind of happiness
you stumble upon when you get exactly what you were aiming for."
Why you should listen to him:
Dan Gilbert believes that, in our ardent, lifelong pursuit of
happiness, most of us have the wrong map. In the same way that optical
illusions fool our eyes -- and fool everyone's eyes in the same way --
Gilbert argues that our brains systematically misjudge what will make
us happy. And these quirks in our cognition make humans very poor
predictors of our own bliss.
The premise of his current research -- that our assumptions about what
will make us happy are often wrong -- is supported with clinical
research drawn from psychology and neuroscience. But his delivery is
what sets him apart. His engaging -- and often hilarious -- style
pokes fun at typical human behavior and invokes pop-culture references
everyone can relate to. This winning style translates also to
Gilbert's writing, which is lucid, approachable and laugh-out-loud
funny. The immensely readable Stumbling on Happiness, published in
2006, became a New York Times bestseller and has been translated into
20 languages.
In fact, the title of his book could be drawn from his own life. At
19, he was a high school dropout with dreams of writing science
fiction. When a creative writing class at his community college was
full, he enrolled in the only available course: psychology. He found
his passion there, earned a doctorate in social psychology in 1985 at
Princeton, and has since won a Guggenheim Fellowship and the Phi Beta
Kappa teaching prize for his work at Harvard. He has written essays
and articles for The New York Times, Time and even Starbucks, while
continuing his research into happiness at his Laboratory.
"Gilbert's elbow-in-the-ribs social-science humor is actually
funny. ... But underneath the goofball brilliance, [he] has a serious
argument to make about why human beings are forever wrongly predicting
what will make them happy." New York Times Book Review