2012.8.22 離婚求めた妻に夫が「死刑宣告」 イスラムの名誉殺人
離婚求めた妻に夫が「死刑宣告」 イスラム社会の名誉殺人
2012.08.24 Fri posted at 13:03 JST
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ザラさん（仮名）は英国に暮らす中東出身の女性。
１０年以上前に家族の反対を押し切って結婚、それからまもなく、仕事を求めて英国に移住してきた。
だが夫は酒に溺れて暴力を振るうようになり、時には首にナイフを突きつけることもあった。
「夫は私をレイプするようになった。私は精神的に参ってストレスを抱え、息子たちとの関係にも悪影響を及ぼした」とザラさんは言う。
他人に夫を悪く言うことは恥だと教えられてきたため、悩みを誰かに打ち明けることもできなかった。
家庭内暴力は続き、結婚からほぼ８年でザラさんは家を飛び出した。
別の男性に出会ったザラさんは離婚を決意する。
「夫に別れたいと言った。夫婦関係はすでに壊れているし、不義を働くのは嫌だと」と彼女は言う。
離婚について親族に説明すべきだと夫が主張したため、ザラさんたちは一時帰国した。
夫の一族数十人が集められ、義母はザラさんを売春婦となじった。
次に夫はザラさんの父に電話をし、「男なら娘を殺して一族の恥辱をそそげ」といわゆる名誉の殺人を要求した。
父は娘の無実を信じてはいたが、一族の顔に泥を塗ったことに変わりはない。親戚の男たちに殺される恐れもある。
実家を訪れたザラさんを父は追い出し、英国に送り返した。
その後、夫はイスラム法に基づいて離婚を申し立てた。
ザラさんは息子たちと引き離されてしまった。
それから５年、ザラさんは帰国していない。
ザラさんは英国の永住資格を取り、イスラム教を捨てた。
ザラさんは今でも連れ戻されて殺害されるのではないかという恐怖におびえると語る。
しかし元夫にも自分の親族にも恨みはないとザラさんは言う。
彼らも自分と同じ残酷な社会的慣習の「被害者」だと考えているからだと語る。
http://www.cnn.co.jp/world/35020849.html
離婚求めた妻に夫が「死刑宣告」 イスラム社会の名誉殺人
2012.08.24 Fri posted at 15:32 JST
ザラさん（仮名）は英国に暮らす中東出身の女性。
夫に離婚を求めると夫の親族らはザラさんの父親に娘を「名誉殺人」するよう要求した。
今でも連れ戻されて殺害されるのではないかという恐怖におびえると語る。
http://www.cnn.co.jp/video/10236.html
'Honor' victim: Husband issued death sentence after I asked for divorce
By Peter Wilkinson and Atika Shubert, CNN
August 24, 2012 -- Updated 1148 GMT (1948 HKT)
(CNN) -- Zara married for love, against her family's wishes, more than a decade ago in the Middle East. Shortly after the marriage, she and her husband, along with their two children, moved to Britain for work. There, she says, her husband began to drink, heavily. He became violent, holding a knife to her throat, she says.
"He started raping me, which affected me mentally, lots of stress and the relationship between me and my sons. I couldn't speak out because I learned that to speak out against your husband to anyone outside, it is big shame."
"So, I was struggling between eastern culture with what I learned and western culture where I should live freedom, equality, justice. I found it difficult."
She still finds it difficult. Zara is not her real name. She spoke to CNN on condition of anonymity, saying she fears for her life.
During her marriage, she says, the violence continued. She showed CNN police reports she eventually filed, but she decided not to pursue a case, and her husband was never charged. Roughly eight years into the marriage, she ran away and met another man. She decided to ask for a divorce.
Woman thrown down well sparks change
"I told him I want a divorce. I don't want to cheat on you. The relationship is broken. I said, all I want is relationship with my sons."
She says her husband initially agreed but insisted they both go back to their home in the Middle East, to explain to their families.
"He gathered all his family in his house. And I was shocked to see 60 or 70 people at his house. His mother called me by very bad names. She called me a prostitute in front of my sons.
"I remember when my mother-in-law looked at my face and held my sons in her hands, big hands. She told me: 'My son is a doctor. You should hold your head up. Who are you to cheat on my son? Who are you?'
"After that, she told me: 'I will look after them, you don't deserve to be a mother. And my sons were looking at me.'"
Then, Zara says, her husband issued a death sentence, calling her father in the neighboring town, demanding she be killed for dishonoring her family -- an "honor" murder.
"He told my father, if you are a man, clean your shame. If you are a man, kill your daughter."
Her sister warned her not to return home, she says. But she called her father to hear his voice one last time.
"He told me: 'I miss you, I want to see you.' He didn't tell me what he heard from my husband [about ordering her death]. Because he knows I would run away. I was scared. He said 'come, I want to protect you.'"
Zara was ready to flee her home in the Middle East. But she decided to see her father one last time, even though she knew it might have been a trap. A part of her, she says, almost wished for death.
"I felt rubbish. Just rubbish! I wanted to die. I wanted to disappear because I didn't want my father, or my brother, or my cousin to kill me. My son will carry my shame.
"My father told my mother: 'The problem, I know, she didn't cheat on her husband. The problem is she brought us shame, shame that cannot even be cleaned by blood. I know she's innocent. But we can't clean this shame."
Faced with this impossible choice, Zara says her father realized he had no alternative.
"My father sent me away because he knew that I would be killed by my uncles or my cousins. There is no other option. He doesn't want to get rid of me. But he wants to get rid of shame ... that I brought my family because of my stupidity, to be honest with my husband that I love another man. That's my crime."
So Zara's father banished her from their home in the Middle East and sent her back to Britain. Meanwhile, Zara's husband filed for divorce in the Sharia court of the couple's hometown in the Middle East.
This meant she was separated from her children, she says, without her knowledge or consent.
Much of Zara's story is hard to verify with her former husband. CNN has seen court documents and her applications for asylum, but Zara's case workers with a British women's aid agency say we cannot ask her husband for a response, for fear it may trigger a violent reaction.
Zara has not returned to the Middle East since leaving five years ago. When she left, her sister wrote to her imploring her never to return. "It will be your grave," she wrote.
Prof.: Honor killings exist around world
Zara has now gained residency in Britain and has chosen to leave Islam, a decision that has cut her off from her children, who are now teenagers.
'Honor' victims have new defender
When she last spoke to them, she says they told her they wanted no more contact with her. "They don't want to hear my voice. It was very painful to hear that. I felt like I got divorced twice: From a husband and my sons. I'm not angry with them. I don't know. But I'm tired. I'm tired of culture and religion. I'm very tired to be a woman. I'm very tired to be a mother."
She is defiant when asked if she believes she will see her sons again. "I gave birth to my sons and I am a mother. I will not give up my right as a mother. I will fight until the end. They will be proud of me and I will be proud of them. I am sure about this."
Zara says she does not hate her husband or her own relatives, even though she still fears they may kill her for bringing shame on the family. She sees them all as victims -- like her -- of a brutal, unrelenting tradition, one that leading Muslim thinkers insist has no place in Islam.
http://edition.cnn.com/2012/08/23/world/europe/uk-honor-murder-zara/index.html
妻 夫婦 夫 レイプ 強姦 性的暴行 暴行 暴力 イスラム 名誉 殺人 名誉殺人 死刑 宣告 家族 家庭 離婚
離婚求めた妻に夫が「死刑宣告」 イスラム社会の名誉殺人
2012.08.24 Fri posted at 13:03 JST
（ＣＮＮ）
ザラさん（仮名）は英国に暮らす中東出身の女性。
１０年以上前に家族の反対を押し切って結婚、それからまもなく、仕事を求めて英国に移住してきた。
だが夫は酒に溺れて暴力を振るうようになり、時には首にナイフを突きつけることもあった。
「夫は私をレイプするようになった。私は精神的に参ってストレスを抱え、息子たちとの関係にも悪影響を及ぼした」とザラさんは言う。
他人に夫を悪く言うことは恥だと教えられてきたため、悩みを誰かに打ち明けることもできなかった。
家庭内暴力は続き、結婚からほぼ８年でザラさんは家を飛び出した。
別の男性に出会ったザラさんは離婚を決意する。
「夫に別れたいと言った。夫婦関係はすでに壊れているし、不義を働くのは嫌だと」と彼女は言う。
離婚について親族に説明すべきだと夫が主張したため、ザラさんたちは一時帰国した。
夫の一族数十人が集められ、義母はザラさんを売春婦となじった。
次に夫はザラさんの父に電話をし、「男なら娘を殺して一族の恥辱をそそげ」といわゆる名誉の殺人を要求した。
父は娘の無実を信じてはいたが、一族の顔に泥を塗ったことに変わりはない。親戚の男たちに殺される恐れもある。
実家を訪れたザラさんを父は追い出し、英国に送り返した。
その後、夫はイスラム法に基づいて離婚を申し立てた。
ザラさんは息子たちと引き離されてしまった。
それから５年、ザラさんは帰国していない。
ザラさんは英国の永住資格を取り、イスラム教を捨てた。
ザラさんは今でも連れ戻されて殺害されるのではないかという恐怖におびえると語る。
しかし元夫にも自分の親族にも恨みはないとザラさんは言う。
彼らも自分と同じ残酷な社会的慣習の「被害者」だと考えているからだと語る。
http://www.cnn.co.jp/world/35020849.html
離婚求めた妻に夫が「死刑宣告」 イスラム社会の名誉殺人
2012.08.24 Fri posted at 15:32 JST
ザラさん（仮名）は英国に暮らす中東出身の女性。
夫に離婚を求めると夫の親族らはザラさんの父親に娘を「名誉殺人」するよう要求した。
今でも連れ戻されて殺害されるのではないかという恐怖におびえると語る。
http://www.cnn.co.jp/video/10236.html
'Honor' victim: Husband issued death sentence after I asked for divorce
By Peter Wilkinson and Atika Shubert, CNN
August 24, 2012 -- Updated 1148 GMT (1948 HKT)
(CNN) -- Zara married for love, against her family's wishes, more than a decade ago in the Middle East. Shortly after the marriage, she and her husband, along with their two children, moved to Britain for work. There, she says, her husband began to drink, heavily. He became violent, holding a knife to her throat, she says.
"He started raping me, which affected me mentally, lots of stress and the relationship between me and my sons. I couldn't speak out because I learned that to speak out against your husband to anyone outside, it is big shame."
"So, I was struggling between eastern culture with what I learned and western culture where I should live freedom, equality, justice. I found it difficult."
She still finds it difficult. Zara is not her real name. She spoke to CNN on condition of anonymity, saying she fears for her life.
During her marriage, she says, the violence continued. She showed CNN police reports she eventually filed, but she decided not to pursue a case, and her husband was never charged. Roughly eight years into the marriage, she ran away and met another man. She decided to ask for a divorce.
Woman thrown down well sparks change
"I told him I want a divorce. I don't want to cheat on you. The relationship is broken. I said, all I want is relationship with my sons."
She says her husband initially agreed but insisted they both go back to their home in the Middle East, to explain to their families.
"He gathered all his family in his house. And I was shocked to see 60 or 70 people at his house. His mother called me by very bad names. She called me a prostitute in front of my sons.
"I remember when my mother-in-law looked at my face and held my sons in her hands, big hands. She told me: 'My son is a doctor. You should hold your head up. Who are you to cheat on my son? Who are you?'
"After that, she told me: 'I will look after them, you don't deserve to be a mother. And my sons were looking at me.'"
Then, Zara says, her husband issued a death sentence, calling her father in the neighboring town, demanding she be killed for dishonoring her family -- an "honor" murder.
"He told my father, if you are a man, clean your shame. If you are a man, kill your daughter."
Her sister warned her not to return home, she says. But she called her father to hear his voice one last time.
"He told me: 'I miss you, I want to see you.' He didn't tell me what he heard from my husband [about ordering her death]. Because he knows I would run away. I was scared. He said 'come, I want to protect you.'"
Zara was ready to flee her home in the Middle East. But she decided to see her father one last time, even though she knew it might have been a trap. A part of her, she says, almost wished for death.
"I felt rubbish. Just rubbish! I wanted to die. I wanted to disappear because I didn't want my father, or my brother, or my cousin to kill me. My son will carry my shame.
"My father told my mother: 'The problem, I know, she didn't cheat on her husband. The problem is she brought us shame, shame that cannot even be cleaned by blood. I know she's innocent. But we can't clean this shame."
Faced with this impossible choice, Zara says her father realized he had no alternative.
"My father sent me away because he knew that I would be killed by my uncles or my cousins. There is no other option. He doesn't want to get rid of me. But he wants to get rid of shame ... that I brought my family because of my stupidity, to be honest with my husband that I love another man. That's my crime."
So Zara's father banished her from their home in the Middle East and sent her back to Britain. Meanwhile, Zara's husband filed for divorce in the Sharia court of the couple's hometown in the Middle East.
This meant she was separated from her children, she says, without her knowledge or consent.
Much of Zara's story is hard to verify with her former husband. CNN has seen court documents and her applications for asylum, but Zara's case workers with a British women's aid agency say we cannot ask her husband for a response, for fear it may trigger a violent reaction.
Zara has not returned to the Middle East since leaving five years ago. When she left, her sister wrote to her imploring her never to return. "It will be your grave," she wrote.
Prof.: Honor killings exist around world
Zara has now gained residency in Britain and has chosen to leave Islam, a decision that has cut her off from her children, who are now teenagers.
'Honor' victims have new defender
When she last spoke to them, she says they told her they wanted no more contact with her. "They don't want to hear my voice. It was very painful to hear that. I felt like I got divorced twice: From a husband and my sons. I'm not angry with them. I don't know. But I'm tired. I'm tired of culture and religion. I'm very tired to be a woman. I'm very tired to be a mother."
She is defiant when asked if she believes she will see her sons again. "I gave birth to my sons and I am a mother. I will not give up my right as a mother. I will fight until the end. They will be proud of me and I will be proud of them. I am sure about this."
Zara says she does not hate her husband or her own relatives, even though she still fears they may kill her for bringing shame on the family. She sees them all as victims -- like her -- of a brutal, unrelenting tradition, one that leading Muslim thinkers insist has no place in Islam.
http://edition.cnn.com/2012/08/23/world/europe/uk-honor-murder-zara/index.html
妻 夫婦 夫 レイプ 強姦 性的暴行 暴行 暴力 イスラム 名誉 殺人 名誉殺人 死刑 宣告 家族 家庭 離婚
