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商業高校普通科卒業。アメリカでAssociates Degree取得。現在イギリスで臨床心理学専攻中。

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Why You Blame People

2019-08-18 00:47:35 | わたし学

When we get stressed, some of us put blame on or take the frustration out on other people even though we know whatever stressing us out has nothing to do with them.

We feel like we don’t have anyone to support us in those moments.

Why?

Let’s go back to the time when we started doing things for external reasons like to please and make proud people around you, for fame, and so on.

From that moment, your voice has faded away, and you have lost your place in your own mind since others took them away from us.

Every “little” thing became extremely stressful especially when things don’t go as you thought they would.
You can’t remember where you wanted to go, what you wanted to do, who you were in the first place. You can’t even remember why you are where you are right now.
You have done all these things for your parents, teachers, friends, etc to make them happy and proud of you. But when you look around, you have noticed nobody is around you but yourself. And the only person there doesn’t even have the power to support you to get through the tough things you are going through, because that is the one you have lost a long time ago.
All because you have let others decide where you go and what to do. At the end of the day, you are the only person that will come along with you on this journey until the last day.

There were a few difficult times in five years of college life abroad. But I always knew that I could talk to myself and find a way to make things better. Knowing that I have my back as my biggest cheerleader helped me more than anything.

Make sure you will be able to have your back when you need someone.
For those who are in a difficult and stressful situation, I want you to remember this;
Do it for yourself.

And you will start embracing life and you will be such a lovable person in a short time.

Remember to do it for yourself.
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If You Are Afraid of Losing What You Have

2019-05-02 21:36:20 | わたし学


A lot of people are afraid of losing something or someone their life, whether it’s their career, money, or friends with the masks. But, when you are thinking about taking a different path or making a change in your life, you are imagining and expecting something new, meaning that losing the olds.


It is natural to be scared or hesitate when you are about to go out of your comfort zone and face unknown things because it means that you have to take risks. All I want you to remember is that if you lose seeming or someone in the process of, or a result of challenging to the new world, making a big difference in your life, then those were the things or people you didn’t realize that you didn’t need. They were the reason that was stopping you from being better you.






Don’t you worry because whatever happens are meant to happen to make it better for you :)
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自分に厳しい人

2018-10-31 12:10:07 | わたし学





私は自分に必要以上に厳しく、批判的で、完璧主義者でした。


元々の性格ももちろんあると思います。
それに加えて、社会では「きちんと」を色々な場面で求められます。



繊細で几帳面な私はその「きちんと」に物凄く敏感で、さらに自分への高い期待値に応えようと必死でした。




そんな結果、今まで穏やかに生きるという事をあまりしてこなかったように思います。




常にソワソワ、ドキドキ。


そんなに心配しなくても大丈夫なのにね。





私の場合の完璧主義ってマイナス方式だったんですね。


例えばテストで95点だったら、「あ〜、5点落としてもうた」


100からどれだけ自分が間違えたかっていう考え方。



これじゃどう頑張っても満足する事はないんです。





これはあかん。いつまでたっても幸せになれない。



完璧主義者は真面目だし努力いっぱいするし、いい事沢山なんですけど、よくよく考えてみたら完璧って何かあんまりよくわからないです。





自然界には完璧なんてありません。その自然界に生きている私も完璧ではないし、ある必要性もないです。





もっと肩の力を抜いて、慌てずゆっくり、なんどり生きていけばいいんです。

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What we forgot

2018-10-24 11:43:59 | わたし学




Being honest to yourself is the very first thing we learn when we were born, and also one of the first things we forget.



When we were born, we can express our feelings and emotions however we want. Total freedom.




But as we grow, we learn "manners" and be told to put ourselves in a box that won't fit.




We start to prioritise other people and a society, and gradually forget about us.






Then, it becomes very difficult to recognise how we are feeling and what we are thinking deep inside.





We don't know that we are sad until we see our tears.

We don't see our value until we face a death.





You're given the life. It's up to you how you want to live it out.


It's okay to be lost sometimes, because that's the time make you and our life more beautiful and fun.




Let's go back to where we were and who we were.




Children move us a lot of times just by showing their emotions to us.

It's because they are truly honest to themselves, and we know that it is such a beautiful thing.






I am going to be honest to myself again. It doesn't mean I'm going to be ignorant or selfish.


Being honest to myself is embracing myself.


It wouldn't hurt anyone.






This is where peace is born.
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心配事

2018-10-21 23:04:02 | わたし学





あなたには心配事がありますか?



仕事、テスト、明日のスケジュール...



私にも就職や卒論など、いくつか心配事があります。





この心配事をなくす方法を最近発見しました。





人が心配している時って、大体未来の事を考えているんです。



簡単に言うと、私はUSJにいる時に心配した事はありません。



だって「今」遊んでいる事に集中しているから。





私の心が今を離れた瞬間から心配は始まります。







逆に言うと、私が今を生きている限り、私は大丈夫なんです。






なので、今日は今日の分ちゃんと遊んで、食べて、勉強して、ゆっくり休む。




私達は明日の分のご飯を食べることは出来ないし、明日の分のトレーニングを今日済ませておくこともできない。



今日と明日は全く別の日なんです。




そんな明日のことに気をとられて今日を無駄にするより、今日は今日の私が生きるべきと気が付かされた時、人生の重みを感じました。






そんな今日を生きるように心がけてから、物事ははかどる様になり、気持ちは軽くなりました。




まだまだ練習が必要ですが、どんな1日でも充実感をおぼえます。





心配しなくても大丈夫、必ずなんとかなるから。




明日にゃ明日の風が吹く

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