Help! I Don’t Drink Alcohol. Why Do All My Friends and Colleagues Try to Make Me?
I have never been a big drinker but recently I was diagnosed with interstitial cystitis, which, among other limitations, means I cannot have alcohol. I attend a lot of...
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同僚からの酒を飲めという圧力に対して、どうしたらいいが、と。
すすめられたても、本来「結構です」といいはずだが、しつこい問題のようなので、グラスに水を入れて、お酒のふりをしたら？と。
私も飲まないのだが、周囲で酒を強要する人はいない。
もっとも、酒飲みで、飲まない人にのませようとする人の話は聞いたことはある。
いずれにせよ、文化論で、アメリカでは、個人の自由を尊重するから云々とか、ということではなく、まだまだ、ケースバイケースのようですね。
I have never been a big drinker but recently I was diagnosed with interstitial cystitis, which, among other limitations, means I cannot have alcohol. I attend a lot of...
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Q. Peer Pressure to Drink ... From Adults: I have never been a big drinker but recently I was diagnosed with interstitial cystitis, which, among other limitations, means I cannot have alcohol. I attend a lot of events where alcohol is served―from networking and drinks with clients to nights out at bars with friends. I used to just nurse a drink or two but now am stuck sticking strictly to water. I politely decline offers of a drink, but it’s almost always followed up with queries as to why I’m not drinking. I’ve been really surprised by the amount of peer pressure (it feels like I’m back in high school) and how some people seem to be even taking it personally. I’ve tried different responses―“no thanks,” “just not drinking tonight,” “personal reasons,” or “for health reasons,” but without getting into the specifics of my condition, I haven’t been able to find a response that quickly shuts that line of questioning down. Any suggestions?
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A: You must be in a profession in which no one has ever been in recovery, pregnant, or is Mormon or Muslim. You don’t say you work for the Distilled Spirits Council of the United States, and even if you did the behavior of your colleagues is boorish. Your answers are all that’s needed (actually a “No thanks” is all that’s necessary―no one has to explain their health status or reason for not drinking). But since this is a recurring problem, short-circuit their rude inquiries by heading to the bar at the beginning of the evening. Ask for water in a martini glass with a twist. Refill as needed and astound your colleagues with your capacity to hold your liquor.
同僚からの酒を飲めという圧力に対して、どうしたらいいが、と。
すすめられたても、本来「結構です」といいはずだが、しつこい問題のようなので、グラスに水を入れて、お酒のふりをしたら？と。
私も飲まないのだが、周囲で酒を強要する人はいない。
もっとも、酒飲みで、飲まない人にのませようとする人の話は聞いたことはある。
いずれにせよ、文化論で、アメリカでは、個人の自由を尊重するから云々とか、ということではなく、まだまだ、ケースバイケースのようですね。
